So they just go along on their merry way divulging all the sorry stuff but never the "real" them because they are not real.
I can name on ten fingers to whom I would give any confidential information to and know that it was safe because I have either known them decades or have tested them with prior knowledge. Him, he has best buddies within weeks or casual friends just to get his story out there. And I was always less of a priority to these people. Please excuse me, I now want to vomit. He did the same to me within hours of meeting him - but I emphatised and he knew I would. BIG RED FLAG and never to be repeated ever again. That phase of my life is over - sorry stories - a big no, no.
Dee x
He was famous and I became suspicious of his part - why was he so silent about it?
Now I know this is a typical N trait
I found out ugly things about him on the internet
Some were shocking and I stayed and kept the info to myself
When you think about it, how can they share that they have abandoned and damaged every person before you?
They don't WANT us to know about their past deeds
Regarding their childhood memories and normal sharing, they have no interest in this type of sentimental exchange - this is not on the supply agenda - this is boring to them - they are all about current supply
i eeked out some info of course because i wanted to bond - he pretty much only shared that he was a momma's boy and never made a break from home even when a star in college.
He never shared much of his past. Unless I asked. He never asked me anything. Not once. But mine was an affair so I always thought it was due to that. The only thing he would share were his accomplishments and his career. His FB profile picture is a picture of him receiving an award. How funny us that?
yes, he told me quite alot, including things i could have done without knowing.......BUT as we live in a small town,he just got in first, with the convo always beginning with...I WANT YOU TO HEAR THIS FROM ME NOT ANYONE ELSE....LOL
so he knew he wasent universally liked and thatat every turn he was going to be informed on...HE WAS RIGHT.....everyone slags him down.......
Yes he told me his abused childhood, his career (he has a long successful career), his love life n some of his plenty of women, his friends etc. But i think he omit some details that he dont want me to know about. Complete honesty is not possible with Narcs and also due to too many past skeletons in his closet.
You know looking back is always 20/20. We were going through his town of St. Louis, and he could not get me out of there quick enough.
He told me that his last wife cheated on him. In truth, he was the one that cheated. Their whole life is one big lie. They are so mentally ill, I think they actually believe their own lies.
So grateful to be out hamster wheel. Here's to sanity, no contact and healing.
Love to all
Jen
I was with him 7 years and didnt know shit about his past, only broken little messages, and oh it was always his EX's fault for everything. i am sure that is the same message he is portraiting to his new supply (victim)about me. He only told me things from his past that ,made HIM look good, like he was a raver dancer..whatever and he danced the BEST. Although I never saw him dance. Or that he always defended his lady friends when he was teen from men who bullied them. HAHHAH!! Thats was a hoot. It was just one lie after the other.
SSM
Yes, Mr. Wonderful was the King of TMI. From his Big Wheel (toy car) being stolen at age 4 to how he treated his ex-girlfriends, one of whom he actually BRAGGED about having left at a tournament 200 miles away from where they lived and that's how he ended their relationship, to stories about his childhood dog, to stories about his family (none of whom I could stand)...
All of the stories painted him as a victim. He wasn't sharing anything with me...he was manipulating the whole time or putting me on notice with veiled threats (the point of sharing the ex-girlfriend follies).
He actually received a gag award at work, called the Project Impact Award...Project Impact is the mental ward at a Chicago hospital, fyi. It cited my ex and another cop as the recipients and listed the ex's accomplishments as telling stories about how his Big Wheel was stolen at age 4 (LOL!), bitching about always being denied time due, complaining that his honorable mentions are not as high as they should be.....hmmmm...victim, victim, victim!!!!
We now so know that they have no boundaries
He told me almost nothing for 10 years
Never really knew him.
past
Yes he told me his abused
Yep, and they were all lies!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NOPE not at all..
Yes, Mr. Wonderful was the