Does anyone remember me???

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#1 Dec 29 - 8PM

gettinbetter

Does anyone remember me???

I have been gone a little while wrapped up in work and Christmas. I have been doing much better but it seems though that since the excitement of Christmas is gone I seem to be slipping. I have been shopping like a crazy woman. Sometimes I feel like shopping gives me the same high I got from the Narc.

The Narc made no attempt to contact me during the holidays. Not suprising but it still blows mind that you can know someone so well and for such a long time and they completely discard you as if you were nothing.

I am sad to see that there are a whole new slew of people on here. Im always sad to see that more and more people are suffering at the hands of these f'd up people.

#2 Dec 31 - 3PM

Disillusionedx2

yes, yes ......

SOI, Shopping does the same for me, life can be dull after the dramatic roller coaster ride with an N, but I would never get back on it! I was contacted on Christmas by N, I did not respond, he contacted me, attempted, prior to Christmas, again, I did not respond. It is sad that a person could do this to another but they are not human, void of a soul, be happy he didn't contact you. Are you disappointed he has not attempted contact? Stay encouraged, remember the worst times, they will NEVER change/improve, not for us, nor their next victim. Kick 2010 in da a$$ and everything N-negative with it, you don't need it, 2011 is yours to find happiness in you, and move on to healthier people/situations, best wishes. stay~striving

stay~strong

#3 Dec 31 - 5PM (Reply to #35)

gettinbetter

I don't know if disappointed

I don't know if disappointed is quite the word cause I know It would only bring more pain. I think its more like astonishment and disbelief how they can just dump and never speak to you again regardless of how long you have known them. No one is sacred to them. He would rather be with strangers than me who has known him 20 plus years

#4 Dec 31 - 5PM (Reply to #36)

Susan32

Astonished

I thought I was close to the ex-Psych professor for 4 years of mentoring. I thought it was one of those teacher/apprentice relationships. I called him at the end of every summer break, he was the advisor for many of my essays... and now it's radio silence. He doesn't speak to me. But that's perhaps because I've broken NC to mock him. And yes, he got a personal list in the mail of why I did NOT miss him. Negativity was one of those things. He'd rather get a new crop of adoring, naive freshmen every year. In the December after my graduation a decade ago, ALL of my former professors got thank-yous from me. Except him. He got NOTHING.

#5 Dec 31 - 10AM

jen79

sick of it

Hi! Be happy he didnt contact you, he contacted me, and it ruined my whole holiday, I became also sick with my stomach and all those organs, having terrible cramping pain, I was laying in bed for days in my moms plays just watching TV to distract myself to forget the hurtful BS he has thrown over me again. I was doing better yesterday, yogilala is in Berlin, we met and talked all day, and we felt better after, then this morning another text from him, she also got a text, and now we both felt horrible again. We have to remind ourselves, what exactly do we miss here? The abuse that comes along with every new contact? Surely not. So I hope that helps you a little bit. Hugs!

#6 Dec 31 - 9AM

Scotchy71

sickofit

Totally hear you....mine didn't contact me either....but I think I would have felt worse if he had. Not sure, I know it's not personal, but yes, it still hurts.....I'm better off and so are you...these people are disordered so not thinking the same way as us normals! Hard to fathom, but it's the truth.....take comfort in who you are and all that you bring....his loss, not yours and remember... you only lost what you didn't deserve....x

#7 Dec 30 - 4PM

gettinbetter

Nice to hear from each and

Nice to hear from each and everyone of you! I hope you all had wonderful Holidays! It seems just when I start to turn a corner with all of this wham I take some steps back. I have been feeling kind of sad the last few days though I will say the wound doesnt seem quite as deep. Having done huge amounts of reading and educating myself I still find myself completely dumbfounded as to how these people can completely erase you from their life as though you never existed

#8 Dec 31 - 9AM (Reply to #15)

Hunter

I'll second that. When can

I'll second that. When can we get off this ride?

#9 Dec 31 - 9AM (Reply to #16)

gettinbetter

idealk9

I would like to speak w you sometime. I will send an email to betty giving her permission to give you my email.

#10 Dec 31 - 9AM (Reply to #17)

Hunter

Sure. I'm on the new site. I

Sure. I'm on the new site. I didn't see you there. I think we can connect that way as well.

#11 Dec 31 - 10AM (Reply to #31)

gettinbetter

You are correct I'm not on

You are correct I'm not on the new site I'm slow with change another characteristic of codependency lol. I have family obligations thru sat but maybe we can chat sunday

#12 Dec 31 - 10AM (Reply to #18)

gettinbetter

You are correct I'm not on

You are correct I'm not on the new site I'm slow with change another characteristic of codependency lol. I have family obligations thru sat but maybe we can chat sunday

#13 Dec 31 - 11AM (Reply to #19)

Hunter

Sure however you want to

Sure however you want to contact me is fine. Leah are buddies now too. :) all you guys are awesome!

#14 Dec 31 - 1PM (Reply to #20)

gettinbetter

Girl. He is getting back in

Girl. He is getting back in my head again must be that I don't have enuf to busy my mind as during Christmas I had no time to think of him. I still can't get my mind around what happened this year. How someone from my past someone I had been pregnant with comes back professing that he screwed up that he's always loved you that he's so grateful for another chance hell never ever leave u again and the list goes on... just up and decides he's not gonna talk to you ever again just like that as if you are a used paper towel no goodbye no kiss my ass just silence. It absolutely blows my mind!

#15 Dec 31 - 1PM (Reply to #21)

Hunter

Oh I know. I was ready to

Oh I know. I was ready to pick up and go with him. I never thought I'd be sitting here, with you, ( that's not a bad thing) popping pills, seeing a shrink ,and staring out the window. It's very Fucked up. A liar, a phychopath,Alcholic, BPD, NPD, etc! I'll email Betty now I like to talk 2

#16 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #22)

gettinbetter

Oh he was talking about us

Oh he was talking about us deciding where we were gonna live refering to things as "ours" how he couldn't wait to introduce me to his friends where he lives now. I bought it all and I was beginning to seriously consider going back to him though I knew it would devastate my family including my mom who hates him. I am so ashamed of myself. So incredibly selfish on my part but I did truly believe he was the love of my life

#17 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #23)

Hunter

Same, when I speak to you

Same, when I speak to you I'll tell you everything. Mine said I made everything up in my head and he adores me as much as his dog. Nice huh?

#18 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #25)

gettinbetter

Omg! What??? He told you

Omg! What??? He told you that you made the whole thing up?

#19 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #26)

Hunter

Yep, I must have been

Yep, I must have been dreaming. I had a lawyer and an apartment in place both of which he approved of. Im still paying gor the apartment, He said I got it wrong and " you think we are having a relationship "

#20 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #27)

gettinbetter

Did you save any of his

Did you save any of his texts an emails where he was telling you that he loved you etc... I would have thrown that right in his face they hate it when you have proof! Omg! Him saying that to me would have sent me over the edge! Though in a way he did say that to me by his just up and deciding that he wasn't gonna speak to me ever again. Your screwed if they speak to you and your screwed if they don't. Maybe we can talk sunday

#21 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #28)

Hunter

When I called him out that's

When I called him out that's when he cut me out. If I didn't have the help of my girlfriends I may have slit my wrists. ( not kidding) I'm a available any time.

#22 Dec 31 - 3PM (Reply to #29)

gettinbetter

Yep same here when I called

Yep same here when I called him out on his behavior he went silent the first time he went silent it was for 2 months this time its been almost three and I feel certain its the last for my sake I hope so as I'm not strong enuf to resist him yet

#23 Dec 31 - 3PM (Reply to #30)

Hunter

Oh we won't let you go back

Oh we won't let you go back for more.

#24 Dec 31 - 2PM (Reply to #24)

gettinbetter

Omg! What??? He told you

Omg! What??? He told you that you made the whole thing up?

#25 Dec 30 - 2PM

Scoop

Shopping is youre friend !

Shopping is youre friend ! ... well it was mine for a while ! i brought things but took most back .. im not ashamed as it helped and has stopped now (unless primark have a sale and then i fall off the waggon ) . Its so nice to hear from you , the thing is you do get good weeks and you do have down time too , its all part of recovory and it dose take time , there is no way to get round that , there is no quick fix to grieving (apart from wine and shopping oh and sitting by the pool in the summer was a great quick fix lol), if grieving is to be done properly and completely all the stages have to be done . Now is the time to do just what the hell you feel like doing and as long as you are not jacking up drugs dont be hard on youre self , everything is ok . x

#26 Dec 30 - 2PM

ClusterF

I remember you SOI

Nice to see you! Yeah, it's pretty astounding how many of these assholes are out there and I guess it's great that so many people have found this board but it saddens me that there are so many victims as well. As long as everyone keeps learning, and the new people learn from the vets and we all keep supporting each other, then life goes on. For everyone else, NARCDAR, NO CONTACT!! Spot them BEFORE you get involved. (There's a book. Read it. NOW. Twice).

#27 Dec 30 - 9AM

Hunter

SOI

Welcome back. I really missed. I've been melting down as of late. I think I'm better today. Very Happy U had a wonderful Holiday! Oxox Idealk

#28 Dec 30 - 8AM

desprathousewife

Hmmm sickofit????

Nah, doesn't ring a bell? It sorta sounds familiar? You wouldn't happen to be the chordcutting rhynestone queen by any chance would ya? lol Good to have you back, although I've only just come back too. I couldn't get on here but I think I'm back on track now. My son has just installed google chrome and it's let me log in...YIPEE :) Hope you've had a wonderful Christmas with your family and are a little further in your healing like what I am ;) Missed ya xxx

#29 Dec 30 - 8AM

Goldie

Hi Sick of it

Great to see you are still here with us. I was gone for awhile myself and have come back to my recovery home and family. I have been scouting around the new site and love it. Feels strange at first because it is different. I'm sure in no time we'll all be pro's at using the site. Glad you got some good shopping in, that is always fun. Look forward to catching up with you soon. We can chat on the new site if you like. Happy New Year Sick of it, this is going to be our year, I can feel it!!! God bless, Goldie

#30 Dec 30 - 12AM

blueeyes

Hell yea I remember

and I knew you were doing the holiday thing for some reason. Intuition? I also get sad to see new ppl, but hey it's better for them to be here than with the N's? Now I hope you continue the holiday feelings thru 2011, narc free, and most important pain free. Luv and missed you!

#31 Dec 29 - 11PM

Leah

Good to see you, sick of it!

Share more...how are you? Hugs, Leah

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