How old was your N?

Mine was 52 y/o when we met; he's now 61 y/o. I am 25 years younger - I thought I was marrying a mature, older man who knew what he wanted in life. HA! What a joke... He must seek younger, more vulnerable women because I think older women can see right through his shit. Plus, his theories on "life" haven't changed in probably 30 years - he's not capable of emotional growth or development as none of them are! Plus as NARC's age their "mirror" cracks. Mine is totally consumed with image and what other people think of him...

He was 53 when we met. I was 41. Which suited me fine. I like older men. But he acted like a child. I called him King Baby. He still looked great at 58 (the last time I saw him), but he's a bit older now. Incredible given he smoked and drank more than any person I've ever known. Good genes. His father was dead handsome even in his 80s. He seems to be getting worse, from what I hear. I haven't had contact with him for over a year, but he's been arrested a couple times since then for harassment and assault & battery, so I've seen it in the newspaper. It's just much harder I imagine for him to keep women around. And he's tired of the game. At least that's what he told me last time we spoke. I'm lucky to be rid of him. When we were together, he was still harassing exes from over a dozen years ago.

He was 55. They never change. He will be like that when he is 85!

46 going on 16!!!!!

I was, I think 37 when I met him, and he was 50, now 52.

When we started dating a couple years ago I was 23 and he was 25

My ex N was 29 but his mind was still stuck in his teen age years. Possessive, manipulative, obsessive, controlling, paranoid..... things a 29 year old man should not be. You live and you learn..... and you know how to protect yourself in the future.

he was 56 and I was 46...that was 9 yrs ago... I was d&d in october and about a month later he was diagnosed with lung cancer. I met the OW whom he supposedly had know for a month at that time...nonetheless...he is 65 friggin yrs old and still doin' it...but not to me anymore :-D rain

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He was 29, I was 30. He waited until after we'd been dating for 3 weeks and after we had sex to tell me that his match.com profile which said he was 34 was a fluke (supposedly not his fault--yeah right). I was looking to date men who were between 32-37ish at that time. I'd never dated a younger guy or a guy even my own age before. I saw his lie as a red flag but compared to all the other seemingly awesome characteristics about him and us together, I let it slide. (Not easily. I was in tears at his front door about to leave him, but he convinced me to hear him out. An hour later, I was willing to let it go and move forward with him.) He told me that truth about 30 minutes after we'd had sex for the first time. Come to think of it, he waited till I was in a vulnerable position to reveal A LOT of not-so-good things to me.

He was 43 and I was 50. But he looks older than his age (he is graying and seriously balding and overweight and walks like a duck) and I look much younger than I am (and I am sure I have my own flaws, too, lol!). When we would go out, say to one of our favorite bars (I don't do that scene anymore at all), he would ask bartenders and fellow patrons to "guess our ages." After a while he stopped playing that game because everyone guessed that he was older than he was and I was younger than I was! God forbid, that must have been a great blow to his massive narcissistic ego!

His birth certificate says he's 48. But he's really a 14 year old girl with severe PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder)

He pretended to be about 12 when I first met him. Oh, you meant actual age, lol. He is 30 years old. God bless, Goldie

34 when we met, he was 55 (he always tried to go as young as possible each time) - that was 10 years ago. I recently ended it for good (after returning many times). I wasn't the first, he was unfaithful to the ex wife before marriage, several affairs whilst married, several one night stands with another ex, and unfaithful whilst with me. He's a fan of the hoover too with old supply and also attempting to connect with females he has known (the internet allows them to stalk easily). You would hardly credit they could keep at it/get away with it forever, 50 years now for him, though their bodies let them down eventually - sadly they still think they look amazing even when it has all gone down hill. They appear as upstanding citizens to the outside world whilst their inner group are mercilessly abused.

He was 29 but he acted as a toddler...everything was made to serve him

they don't change-ever. He won't treat women in the future better. He won't change. I hope you stay away from him.

He and I were born on the same day, the same year. I checked his ID. That is part of why I thought we were sole mates. We met on our 40th birthday when I brought a cake to a meeting to celebrate my birthday and he said, "hey, it's my birthday too."

40. That was part of the problem....I kept thinking surely someone at this age would not be playing games with other people's lives??? Shows my naivety... X B

56 now and no change!

I've had relationships with 2 narcs. The first I was 27 and he was 30. More recently I was 42 and he was 44. Seems like they never grow out of it and how they live no matter what age!

He was 40.

He was 44 when we got together he will be 52 soon

He was 39 when we met , I knew him when he was 19 who knew how the 20 years between would shape him! He is now 41 and got a new supply!

when he was 50 and now in his 60's.5 failed relationship, what a great record, NOT.............

Met mine when I was 40 and he was 45. He just turned 50.