manipulated again...Please help.
manipulated again...Please help.
Ex left this afternoon. Made it through most of weekend with no contact. This afternoon, that fell apart.
ExH admitted that he has narcissistic tendencies. He wanted me to be empathetic to his situation where he is depressed, and messed up, and barely survivng each day. He is lost without the kids, and is wondering if there is a chance for him and I to work out. He can't give her up, because he is so depressed and can't seem to make any right decisions. She is understanding and supportive, and letting him figure it all out, and is there for him. He feels that with me, I am angry and mad, and will never be able to forgive him.
He was crying about how he misses his own children, and he can't in his right mind ever imagine taking on her three kids. Blah, blah, blah.
Nothing different same old story. Finally I asked him, why he feels the need to tell me this crap. It is not like he is saying, hey I am giving up the girlfriend, going into therapy, spending some time alone, and figuring this all out. He said, he needs me too hear him. He needs to know if there is anything to save between us, even though he can't imagine us ever working our differences out.
Finally, I told him enough. Once again, there was no point in discussing anything. It sounded the same to me...same old stuff.
I told him, if he is happy with her, leave me the fuck alone. If he genuinly wanted to work on our marriage, and he loved and respected me, she would have been out of the picture a long time ago...
He tells me it is not so black and white.
Am I missing something??????
1.Why is he still messing with me if he is in love with her and it is "true love?"
2.Why if he is so miserable and just surviving each day, isn't he doing what he needs to do and getting rid of the GF?
3.Why doesn't he leave me alone?
4.WHy is he holding onto that relationship if he doesn't want her three kids who are now living with grandma, because mom's BF, my husband, doesn't want them.
5. Why is she still hanging around with a man who doesn't want her kids?
6. Why do I still listen to his crap?
I swear, I think I am angry and unsympathetic, and the nutty one when I talk with him!
Please help me to understand.
all about appearances.
mallory
Barbara...
relapsing
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Mallory
He is so FULL OF CRAP
No I wouldn't
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needs....
I imagine she'll be feeling
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Oh, I think it's just
your stbx
Hugs Mallory.. You said
He's beyond certifiable - he shouldn't be out among normals
Barbara
Confused
Narcissists are ALWAYS ON STAGE - They're never REAL
rejlies as we go
Always on stage
On stage
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Mallory