No Contact Neosporin....aaaaaah
No Contact Neosporin....aaaaaah
Last night I found myself sifting through Sam Vankin's videos and materials and came across the most empowering, smile provoking, and healing statement from him regarding No Contact that I wanted to share with you all. I think it is the closest I will ever come to a healthy payback/revenge that won't affect my karma but acts as Neosporin to my soul. Check it out == it might help others as well when we start feeling vulnerable and want to reach out and break No Contact:
"For the narcissist, to be abandoned means to be judged and found wanting. To be deserted means to be deemed replaceable. At its extreme, it can come to mean the emotional annihilation of the narcissist. He feels that when a woman leaves him she does so because there it is emotionally easy to get away from him and never to see him again. There is no problem to bid farewell to someone who just is not there (at least emotionally). The narcissist feels annulled, rendered transparent, abused, exploited, and objectified.
Put differently, the narcissist experiences through abandonment (even through the mere risk of abandonment) a re-enactment of the very mistreatment and abuses, which, earlier in his life, transformed him into the deformed creature that he is. He gets a taste of the medicine (rather poison) that he often ruthlessly administers to others. At the same time he relives his harrowing childhood experiences.
This mirror matrix of forces is too much for the narcissist to bear. He begins to disintegrate and veers into utter and complete dysfunction. At this late stage, he is likely to entertain suicidal ideation. An encounter with the opposite sex holds mortal risks for the narcissist - more ominous than the risks normally associated with it."
So, when you go NO CONTACT, you are in essence, abandoning them and not giving them a chance, a reason, an explanation, an opportunity, a foot in the door, a validation that they exist or that they even existed. They weren't who they claimed to be, so I refuse to acknowledge their existence at all. And so No Contact and my refusal to acknowledge their existence NOW my friends, is my own path to true FREEDOM.
I found such peace last night, pouring through Sam's videos one after the other and hearing him explain everything in straight, matter of fact ways. It took the sting out of so much -- here's his site in case you want to check it out as well. Peace and love to you all, and a Happy Thanksgiving to those in the States! xoxo
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