Stages of Recovery

When my D&D happened a decade ago, I never really had a chance to deal with it properly. I spent 2 years at home, dealt with depression, then I had 5 years in a toxic/narcissistic workplace. I never really came to terms with it. I had put it on the back burner, repressed it... and that's never a good thing.

I can identify with this. I'm between 4 and 5. And honestly, until I found this site only a few weeks ago, I was between 3 & 4. I've come so far. 1 thru 3 lasted almost 9 months for me.

I'm between Stage 4 & 5 with moments of Stage 3 creeping in at times. I know from where I was to where I am now I am so much better. But I can't wait for Stage 5 in full! If he wasn't 600 miles away I don't know if I would be where I am. If I would feel this strong. I am sooo grateful he is far away. My heart goes out to the all women who don't have that luxury. I just told my best friend of over 30+ years about this website today.(And her response was...There ALOT of those F'n Ns out there aren't there?! LMAO! Yeah there are.Damn them!) We have said for many many years someday it's going to be her & I rocking in our rocking chairs on the front porch wrapped in our antique quilts sipping vodka and having the best time of our lives laughing our asses off and being at peace. God works in mysterious ways doesn't he? I give my thanks every nite for being guided to this site and all of you. God Bless!

I think I am between stage 3 and 4. I need to be mad at him for what he did to me, but I am slowly starting to take my life back. I think I am still having a few obsessive thoughts here and there, but not as much as before. And I am staying NC!