subject of divorce
subject of divorce
I've been reading all the recent posts on the difficulties many of you have faced or are facing and my heart goes out.
Over the last two years as things have gone increasingly downhill, I've lived in fear of him stalling on me if this ever completely fell apart. And I believe that's exactly what he is doing.
The worst part of this humiliating experience is that we own a house together and I have a 13 year old child. I'm trying to refinance in my name but he is delaying signing the QuitClaim. I want to do this before the end of the month when the loan goes into an adjustable rate.
Long story short, three years ago we bought the house after me waiting for three years before that. It was never the right time for him, but I could afford it and wanted my son in a house instead of an apartment. I finally said that if it would make him feel less pressured then I would just buy the house and he could just be with me like he was at the apartment. (Yeah I know, stupid). His response was "so you just don't want to buy a house with me" (this is where I could have used a clue phone).
Anyway here we are. So now, he stalled through last month, its already mid may and every day its either "we're still trying to work this out" or I get some manipulative email. It doesn't help that I fell off the wagon the other night. But now this is totally serious and I want to demand that this move forward and he sign the paper, but I already know he's going to stall, rage and screw with me psychologically. He called yesterday on his way to another show just to say hi but then I woke up to a cryptic email about "giving him 30 days". Sometimes I feel that if it weren't for my son I just couldn't keep going. The pain, confusion and anger of this has broken my spirit. My mom wants me to get a lawyer but were not married so I doubt I have many rights. I suppose its possible I could get him physically out because I have a child, but isn't emotional and verbal abuse pretty hard to prove? And it doesn't solve the refinancing issue. This is horrible and I'm so tired. Thanks for listening.
You are right where he wants
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what to do
Barbara response
Check your State Laws