Wanting some feed back

I've been out of the N r/s for over 1 1/2 years and decided to begin dating again about 6 months ago w/a variety of experiences. A guy on my paid dating site messaged me & we began talking & then met. We had a lot in common & what a koinkydink that he lives about 1 mile from me & graduated the same year at the same school. Both divorced same year, 2 kids same ages, liked riding & eclectic music too. The 1st date was an exclusive place where he told me he was in AA, sober 5 years, studied Tolle, Dywer & went to India for Oneness studies. I liked his honesty & enlightenment. Seemed like good r/s material. We saw each other a few times a week for 5 weeks. He showed no N behaviors. We were not intimate as I wanted to wait until I knew him better by his behaviors, not what he was simply telling me. We made future plans for events this winter & I really enjoyed his company.

Last week he asked me to go to his beach condo for the Labor Day holiday, I told him I would let him know. Tuesday night I made dinner & we had a camp fire, I told him I would not go with him b/c his D would also be there & I hadn't met her yet. He said he understood & also thought it may be uncomfortable for me. I also brought up the sleeping arrangements & he said there were 5 bedrooms. I could feel his demeanor change at that point & I hadn't heard from him in 5 days. We had planned to attend a concert tonight so I sent him a message last night. Below is his response sent this morn.

"Hi S & A, I enjoy your company very much but I don't feel this relationship is going in the direction I would like to go. I've enjoyed the time we spent together but I've found in the past to continue just makes it more difficult as time goes on. I hope you find what your looking for as I'm trying to do also. Pls keep the MP3 player and enjoy as it has'nt been used in a couple yrs". Good Luck, John

I haven't responded & not sure I will. I won't be keeping his ipod as a consolation prize n w/put it on his deck. His response has got me puzzled. I haven't wanted to spend 5 weeks dating anyone except for him. While I appreciate his honesty, I don't appreciate being told in an e mail. I would have liked to discuss r/s issues but he obviously doesn't think ours is worth the trouble.

I suppose I'm disappointed that I misjudged him. I'm still trying to fit into this new skin of mine. I hit bingo on the other jerks I've dated & was getting confident in my skills. Plus, rejection is a bruise to the ego.

Comments anyone?