I'm not asking and not telling but I wonder how many women on here are talking about the same man? Anyvody know SA or HSA? (Just a hypothetical question.)
Gentlemen and Ladies:
I am building a database just for us. If you want to: Please provide me with the initials of your narc and what state/states you are located in or what states he has lived in. Purpose: How many of us are/have been involved with the same Narc. The spread sheet is to be sent only to those of you who request it.
I'm not sure how sneaky he would be able to get supply these days, he is married with a new baby I am told, but his initials are ME and he resides in the greater Sacramento area. He's a big fat slob now and has been attending Cal State University, Sacramento. (A good way to scout supply, Im guessing. He is also active in the SCA (Society for Creative Anachronism), a historical re-enactment group.
I hope that's just enough info without stepping over the line. I have absolutely no problems with pointing out his FB page if it was appropriate, so you could get a visual on this creep, but its probably not a good idea.
Ok ladies I have a down and dirty spread sheet, sorted by N initials. Not nearly enough victims on this site. But its a start. If you care to look at it send me a private message and I'll be glad to email it to you. I would assume that you might want to talk to each other to compare notes if there is a match.
BS or JBS from any of the following:
Louisville, KY
Chicago, IL
Columbus, OH (general area)
Pittsburgh, PA
Cape Gir, MO
He moved around alot - perfect for a narc!!!
I have been gob smacked on just how similar out storys are . Its because they share the same disorder and pathology is predictable , a bit like someone who suffers from a heart condition will share the same symptoms so someone with NPD will have the same pattens of behaviour ie gaslighting , with holding ,projection , ED (my favourite ) ,idealization , devaluation and discard etc .
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I find that discouraging that none of my freaks victims are on here, and for sure his GF has not caught on yet, mmmm you would think with the hundreds of women he has done this to one would find her way to this site, see there ladies, he did this JUST TO ME, ha ha ha I am just kidding
Maybe they treated us the worst because we were the best, so we were more traumatized? Hasn't someone on here said something to that effect. The more important you were to them, the worse the D&D? I don't know. I know he drove his wife crazy and I would hate to have lived her life for the past 30 years, but he said she doesn't use a computer. THAT I find absolutely amazing in this day and age. I also think there is just not enough knowledge about the disorder so these women don't even know to be looking for something like this and just think he's an asshole. Considering mine still has a couple of exes on his friends list on FB, I think they just don't see him for what he is and would probably be recycled easily if given the chance.
It was VERY public. The ex-Psych prof didn't have a Nice Guy image, and then keep his nastiness behind closed doors. As soon as I declared my love my senior year, the final D&D came in all its nastiness. He'd be raging at me in front of his colleagues&my classmates, I'd be publicly weeping, he did the smear campaign claiming that I was sexually harassing him (I never said anything sexual), moved his seminar from one classroom to another. When a pastor friend of mine died, he flaunted his girlfriend.
The ex-P wanted to think his colleagues were on his side... I found out otherwise. He bragged about driving his maternal grandmother as well as his parents crazy.
"The more important you were to them, the worse the D&D"-And I was just a student. It's not as if I were his girlfriend or his lover.
There has got to be a match! Well ..look at it this way, we are smart enough to be here God help the others, they will never understand the behavior.
My Narc's Intitals are MJH or just call him Little Dick!
His Actual Initials are WFS (Actual Name) but, he goes by BS. He lives in Ohio and has been in the same county all his life. He used to be a engineer for the railroad. Hope this helps.
F.B. from Texas
travels all over the place for his job as a software engineer
also a musician and 10 years ago he used to play bass in a band that was signed by RCA (got fired for drinking and womanizing and not coming to practice, still I thought 'oh he's changed since then')
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M R in Illinois
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Ok ladies I have a down and
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Adding to the List!!
BS or JBS from any of the
Believe in yourself!
Terri
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Maybe they treated us the
My final D&D lasted 3 months
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TC
There has got to be a match!
CA or CGA
Mine
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Believe in yourself!
Terri
Terri
Nope....mine is named stupid.
Initials stand for
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EB from MA
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