I'm sorry, but I just have to ask this...
I'm sorry, but I just have to ask this...
One of the mind games my ex played on me that is now coming full circle for me that i could not see in the relationshit was the subtle, yet mindfucking manipulation and PROVOCATION that happened. He would purposely ST me, or when he wanted to avoid answering a question he'd put it back on me, literally frustrating me to the point of insanity. My reactions to this were to scream yell and blow up his phone with nasty text messages out of sheer anger and frustration. It took me a long time to realize he LOVED this. And in turn he could portray HIMSELF AS THE VICTIM!
Has your disordered one, while doing this accused you of: Manipulating him, playing mind games with him, being jerked around, hurting him, telling you that you "win", will not put up with your shit anymore, doesn't deserve to be yelled and screamed at, you set me up (when he actually did the set up), etc? These kinds of games had me so fucked up during the relationship and forever trying to NOT get upset, yet he'd provoke me again with something said or done and a lot of it, I cannot put into words! Thus I always felt it was my fault, while mr. calm, cool and collected prided himself on his victimization. It allowed him to one up me ALL THE TIME.
Did this happen to you?
Very early on, I got an email
My experience: just like so
Like you and Rose, my exNh had the same technique..
drcmp "He'd hurt me over and over.
He was always the victim
Same exact language, down to
of course this exactly is my
Oh my God. many of us never
Thank you for all your posts...
Yes, it's called
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
wearing the bruises
Yes, I too have never
mystwoman!
Omg & holy crap!
Oh god yes!
Monique, omg, mine did the same thing!
He planned and staged for my upsets
CaminoReal
I can tell you that the most dangerous thing you can do
Monique and Cali
Monique
Sunafterrain, yes, happened too many times!
Caligirl
Monique, oh yes, I can't stand the word
Cali
OMG, Sunafterrain!
I know nothing about his upbringing or his mother and father.
YES! Absolutely yes!! It
YES! YES! YES!
Tiger