narc-boy has a lot to prove now that we're gone
narc-boy has a lot to prove now that we're gone
This goes out to all the beautiful women on these boards who truly believe that their ex-Narc is now BLISSFULLY happy- now that they've found their TRUE soul-mate! (The New Supply)
You are making a common and destructive mistake if you think Narc-boy will be forever ecstatically happy with Ms. Getting Swept off her Feet For Now (New Woman).
I don't need to tell you that, given time, she will also be D&D'ed. But even if that happens later than it did you (that is actually a BAD sign- it shows that the woman has even poorer self-esteem and looser boundaries than we did!) disordered men DO NOT change. Please underline that.
But the reason for my post is that I want to share my perceptions of these disordered people (I have many family members and Exes that are PD).
Because Mr. Narc has to see himself as PERFECT, the demise of your relationship, in his twisted mind, is ON YOU. He HAS to lie about you and smear YOUR good name to all who will listen because he has to make others believe that YOU are the crazy one- and YOU are incapable of normal human relations. Maybe his family and friends, because they liked you, are curious as to why Mr. Narc as not 'settled down' with you. Or why his relationships never work out...Is he just unlucky in love?
Part of supporting his lies about you (and to deflect suspicions about his disorder), is that NOW, he 'tries too hard' with the New Woman. Even harder than he did with you- the stakes are now higher. His love bombs are now NUCLEAR- she is ENRAPTURED and posting everywhere about their good fortune. Suddenly, they are the COUPLE OF THE CENTURY!
So, you see, Mr. NarcoPath has a LOT to prove to the world (and to HIM, IMAGE is everything!) His EGO and reputation as a 'nice guy' RIDES on this- and he will stop at NOTHING to garner new Supply/drug. We consistently under-estimate their need for SUPPLY. Think heroin addict here- but much more intense!
Are you understanding that now? Will you, beautiful reader finally stop believing his bullsh*t?
If my post makes ONE person feel better today, then I have hit my goal...Thanks for reading this.
Stepping up his game
I was easy going OW
Rest assured....
"But even if that happens
thanks Echo.
Sad today
Healingslowly-Hang Tough!!
OW did receive KARMA
mirror of my situation..
Oh goodness yes.
reply to Froglegs
Okay, Cala, I need to jump in here
spinning
spinning
Calalily,
Power!
Agreed
AGREED FROGLEGS
The time frames vary
Wash,rinse, repeat.....
Lindsay- Rock over the head please!!
Calalily, she CHEATED on her
point taken froglegs
You are so welcome! That is
Dear Cala, braveheart, what an
spinning
THANK YOU "NOT" SPINNING ANYMORE!
Anyone with experience of seeing OW dumped too?????
Calalily see OW/Karma
Calalily, I was the OW, and he was NO different!!
Juliette
My ex hoovered....