I was hoovered this weekend

For those who might not know my story, I dated a guy last year, out of state, who turned out to be a fullblown psychopath. Textbook. I have been NC with him for 18 months. No hoovers since last holiday season, and it's 'safe' to say, that's past.

Fast forward past all that, and I started up a friendship last year, with a guy, who this year, we talked about turning things to a new level--dating. Not just being friends. I started to see however, many red flags shown to me -- ranging from secretiveness, to lying, to triangulation. He was different than my last year's narc, more cerebral, and elusive. But narcissistic just the same.

So, I went NC...this was before the summer. He hoovered through mutual friends saying dergatory comments about me...I didn't cave.

I had blocked his phone number and it's still blocked. Well, after all these months of NC...I got a letter in the mail this weekend. (reg mail) A scathing letter of how I probably have been 'fucking half the town,' and that is why I didn't want him around anymore.

Ok...needless to say, I have not been doing anything of the sort. The letter was nothing but insults. I read it...and threw it out. It had no return address, so I opened it. Had I seen it was from him, it would have been tossed immediately!

So, after all this time everyone, I have tried to change who I am, and who I attract. And with some success, I'd have to say. And now that I'm trying to lead this 'different' life, I still have my past coming back to haunt me. It's painful to read stuff like this, even though I know it's not true. Even though this man means nothing to me anymore.

But, I just am so tired of narcissists. I don't know what possessed this man after all these months to reach out to me with all these insults. I've been dealing with assholes it seems, since I was a child! I'm tired of it.

Does this make them feel better? Really?

It is taking everything in me to not unblock his number and tell him what an asshole I think he is, BUUUUT...i won't. Grrr...I want to though. But, what good will it do.

I came here instead. You are my safe haven. I don't want this man, I don't want my ex...I just want to be left alone by narcs. :(

Thanks for listening!