I was hoovered this weekend

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#1 Dec 11 - 6AM
Deidre99
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I was hoovered this weekend

For those who might not know my story, I dated a guy last year, out of state, who turned out to be a fullblown psychopath. Textbook. I have been NC with him for 18 months. No hoovers since last holiday season, and it's 'safe' to say, that's past.

Fast forward past all that, and I started up a friendship last year, with a guy, who this year, we talked about turning things to a new level--dating. Not just being friends. I started to see however, many red flags shown to me -- ranging from secretiveness, to lying, to triangulation. He was different than my last year's narc, more cerebral, and elusive. But narcissistic just the same.

So, I went NC...this was before the summer. He hoovered through mutual friends saying dergatory comments about me...I didn't cave.

I had blocked his phone number and it's still blocked. Well, after all these months of NC...I got a letter in the mail this weekend. (reg mail) A scathing letter of how I probably have been 'fucking half the town,' and that is why I didn't want him around anymore.

Ok...needless to say, I have not been doing anything of the sort. The letter was nothing but insults. I read it...and threw it out. It had no return address, so I opened it. Had I seen it was from him, it would have been tossed immediately!

So, after all this time everyone, I have tried to change who I am, and who I attract. And with some success, I'd have to say. And now that I'm trying to lead this 'different' life, I still have my past coming back to haunt me. It's painful to read stuff like this, even though I know it's not true. Even though this man means nothing to me anymore.

But, I just am so tired of narcissists. I don't know what possessed this man after all these months to reach out to me with all these insults. I've been dealing with assholes it seems, since I was a child! I'm tired of it.

Does this make them feel better? Really?

It is taking everything in me to not unblock his number and tell him what an asshole I think he is, BUUUUT...i won't. Grrr...I want to though. But, what good will it do.

I came here instead. You are my safe haven. I don't want this man, I don't want my ex...I just want to be left alone by narcs. :(

Thanks for listening!

Dec 18 - 11AM
Deidre99
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Used?

Dec 18 - 12PM (Reply to #95)
talktothehand
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D

Dec 17 - 4PM (Reply to #96)
Deidre99
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Wow...that's crazy! I'm glad

Dec 17 - 4PM (Reply to #97)
talktothehand
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the truth is

Dec 18 - 4AM
Deidre99
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Thank you agnes, I mentioned

Dec 17 - 7PM (Reply to #92)
agnesmurphy17
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He came by your house?!?

Dec 18 - 9AM (Reply to #93)
Deidre99
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agnes, thank you. you are

Dec 18 - 8AM (Reply to #91)
TruthbeginsToday
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I agree that this was a test

Dec 17 - 3AM
agnesmurphy17
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Another Thought

Dec 17 - 4AM (Reply to #80)
Used
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agnes

Dec 18 - 4AM (Reply to #81)
Deidre99
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all my ex N's never wish me

Dec 18 - 5AM (Reply to #82)
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deidre

Dec 18 - 5AM (Reply to #86)
Deidre99
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I don't know what you mean by

Dec 18 - 6AM (Reply to #87)
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deidre

Dec 17 - 6PM (Reply to #89)
TruthbeginsToday
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Used

Dec 18 - 6AM (Reply to #88)
Deidre99
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I have never dealt with a

Dec 18 - 5AM (Reply to #83)
talktothehand
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indeed

Dec 18 - 5AM (Reply to #84)
Deidre99
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yes it is. you're right.

Dec 18 - 7AM (Reply to #85)
talktothehand
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D

Dec 16 - 8AM
Deidre99
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Just a note to say thank you

Dec 13 - 4AM
Deidre99
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An update...

Dec 14 - 5AM (Reply to #76)
TruthbeginsToday
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Psychopath? remember hunters( this could be you) Posts?

Dec 14 - 6AM (Reply to #77)
Deidre99
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I'm so grateful you wrote

Dec 13 - 10AM (Reply to #75)
Im_always_fine
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Who is she? Western Union?

Dec 13 - 10AM (Reply to #73)
Journey
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Dee, I think a more

Journey on...

Dec 14 - 5AM (Reply to #74)
Deidre99
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Just wanted to thank you

Dec 13 - 9AM (Reply to #72)
newbegginings
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The Letter was not imaginary either.....

Dec 13 - 6AM (Reply to #70)
Done sourcing
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"D", here is all of the

Dec 13 - 7AM (Reply to #71)
Deidre99
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I needed to read this, DS!

Dec 13 - 6AM (Reply to #55)
IncognitoBurrito
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Hey