Print out this e-mail. Scratch out your name and put in any name, then read it. It will be easier for you to see the bull shit and circular language.
Ask yourself - what was his motivation for sending it?
It was out of the blue, why?
What did he really want?
Who did he want that for?
Why was he pointing out "alleged" faults of yours?
Is it really a bad thing to want to have an emotional component to your relationship?
The sex was great BUT...but what? What is that really about? (He's training you or trying to train you to leave your emotions out of sex because he can't deal with it - too messy for him, poor narc)
What would you say to someone else who received this e-mail with their name on it...?
So glad you reached out. Remember this. It will help you moving forward. He will most likely try again. Be strong, you are doing the right thing!!
First DO NOT RESPOND!!!!
And wow - what a freaking loser this guy is!
"Why do I cut this loose on you now. Because it may not have occurred to you, or maybe you haven't found it to be the case, but you have been impossible to replace as a lover, a friend and just plain good company. Unfortunately, I can't afford the price...but that's your fault not mine."
Every time I see/hear what these a$$hles say I am more baffled!
In a nutshell, he is reaching out to see if he can get laid again. He added the caveat about your "price" to see if you would say "no no, let's go ahead and have sex! I can handle it, really!" I remember I did that my my ex N once - he made me promise I wouldn't be mad at him after. UGH!
So... RUN FOREST RUN! Don't look back, and don't engage him in any conversation. He is just trying to suck you back in!
Yeah - he is looking for some supply. His motivation is clear.
I'd say something else here about cutting off the supply of a rodent, but I can't!! I think someone else coined a new term about "withholding nourishment from incubus!!" (please forgive me - I don't remember who to give credit to - for real - but i learned something new with the term incubus so thanks for that).
How's this one - "Snip the aorta, let 'em bleed" TM GIJ 7/16/10
In any event - don't respond. Glad you reached out for support here.
Agree with above, no response. It is a mean letter. He tells you he enjoys your company yet did not feel compelled or even want to bring you to the party. The last year with my N he also no longer wanted to bring me to parties. Be glad you are free of the loser.
Peace. J
Incredible! Just like I was reading my ex N!"You want too much and I cannot afford it so I must give up". "Sex is definately the best thing we have." They are sick people. Run away.
No more booty calls here, I almost responded with a one liner:
"you have me mistaken for someone else,
please call 1-800-call-girl and you may find what you're looking for."
You guys are great!
Thanks,
OMG, LMAO. As much as i would have LOVED to see you do this to the mutant, im glad you didnt. It would have only fed him given him hope. Thats something we dont want them having. xoxoxoonly
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I truly felt I was reading a note from my x-n. He doesn't want any emotional connection. He thinks he's been away long enough now that you will take him back just as a sex partner because you miss him so much. He believes you will do whatever he wants now. What an ass!!! I hate him and I don't know him!
He does think he's been away too long and I'm sure he thinks I'm crying in my cheerios everyday....guess again buddy boy! I am so much happier now that he's out of my life.
I'm going "no computer" this weekend, hope you all have a safe and happy one!
Running - Do yourself a favor
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Diddo Amy!!
ROTFLMAO!! I almost spit my
Gender neutral is a plus
Agree with above, no
Peace. J
Incredible
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OMG, LMAO. As much as i
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I truly felt I was reading a
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