Help please!

Happy, I dont know if you are able go on the boat without him, but it could help. I felt the same, my memmories were connected mainly to skiing. When the winter was coming i was feeling exactly like you feel now. But i have found people who agreed to take me to ski, i have even took my dad for one ski trip this year and guess what this memmories are not that strong anymore. I have stopped connecting skiing with my exN. I have notice the pattern. When i miss something i did with him I am doing it myself or with my friends. It really helps a lot!

Happy I know how hard it is to fight the urge and you kind of get the shakes from the anxiety it creates. I have probably sent the barc literall hundreds of texts over the last five months. Why wouldi do that when I'm married to a good guy? It made no sense whatsoever not to mention how pathetic and desperate I looked. The answer for me lies in the trauma bond and the repetition compulsion. It literally hs been compulsive for me so when I get the urge, I pull up articles and read about it. Once I see that it really isn't that he is so great that its really about me and processing the trauma the urge begins to subside. Do Not call him at least until you do some reading on this. Once you have done some reading tell me if you feel less compelled. I think you will find it to be true

Many nice spring days are ahead...this is YOUR opportunity to create NEW memories... The weather is a trigger, but keep pushing through it...if it makes you feel any better, mine was such a lazy turd...I have no memories...he was always working!!! yea right...working...umhmmmm Anyhow, spring can be many great things, a chance to get out and do things...stay steady... The hell with him and his boat! Next one will own a YACHT! Hugs...

First of all, where the hell are you that there's nice weather? LOL I'm freezing! Second of all, DO NOT CALL HIM! I, too, have my sunny boat memories with the narc, but like all these people are saying, remember how it MOSTLY was? I have the advantage (?) of knowing now that every time we were at the lake he was banging another woman that night or the next day, so every memory is a total fraud. Yours may not have had another woman, but remember how he terrorized you at the lake, left you on shore, abandoned you and your son and turned you into a blubbering wreck of nerves, fear and shame? I DO! I tell you, if I could have back the five precious days I wasted on his stupid boat with his stupid family I would pay dearly for them. And, while I was at it, I'd also get back the thousands of dollars I spent making gourmet picnics and cocktail spreads for our boating days. "Oh baby, you are so wonderful. This is so delicious. You think of everything." Yeah. NEXT! You are a model of poise, beauty and progress to us all. DON'T SCREW IT UP!!!!!!!! :)

If you text him or call him I will find Idealk and we will come and beat your ass! How's that?? :) I am having the hardest time with NC. When I see members like you who've been doing this awhile and you still struggle it kills me. I fear I'm never going to break this cycle! I'm so scared my whole life is going to be a fight every single freaking day whether to answer or not to answer! Arrrgghhhh! Please just let it go. Don't text him. I am having the same stupid feelings because it's warm outside! I want to crawl in bed and not come out till winter! Stay strong Happy!!! PLEASE!

whaqt is with them, are they all from some similar planet or something? mine left me in red river, NM, on valentine's day, in an airport, in austin texas, and on numerous walks and bike rides. here, let me take you somewhere gorgeous and extravagant and you better fucking bahave and not ruin our evening with your erratic bahaviour. I FUCKING HATE them.

Yeah, Fond memories my ass, I remember he left you on shore and took off by himself to see the sun set! How fond was that? With some luck maybe he'll fall over board! My God ! take a pill girl, you had hot babes ( and they were babies) all over you Sat night! Take a bite out of your new life! ( teehee) Fond Memoreis? more like nightmares to me! Yuck to the Narc! Or a Maybe you know better! OxOx idealk PS and... No Cheesburgers!