So he wants "closure"....

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#1 Sep 13 - 9PM

empty68

So he wants "closure"....

Received this text last night:

I'M SURE U HAD A VERY SPECIAL WKEND W/"UR FRND"..YES I KNOW, SOMEONE TOLD ME U MET SOMEONE...U KNOW ME MORE THAN ANYONE ELS THAT NOW I WUD NEVER WANT TO C/HEAR FRM/TALK WITH NOR EVER B WITH AGAIN....NOR DO I EXPECT U TO EITHER...I NOW ASK ONLY ONE OF U...(UR FORGIVENESS)..I NEED THIS CLOSER TO MOVE ON LIKE U DID, IF U DONT/CANT ILL UNDERSTAND, BUT IF U CAN..."BABE" I'M TRULY SORRY FOR ALL THAT I AM/WAS N FOR ALL THE ABUSE INFLICTED UPON U VERBAL/PHYSICAL N OTHERWISE IN (EVERY WAY)..FIND IT IN UR HEART, IF NOTHING ELSE, (PLZ FORGIVE ME?)...THIS WILL B MY FINAL CLOSER..PLZ LET ME KNOW?

I know I shouldn't have, but in a WTF moment after I'd taken my sleeping pill (which after I've taken, I seem to do crazy things), I texted back:

Wow...You are more psychologically disordered than I thought..get some professional help, seriously. What's the name of this "friend" I'm suppose 2 have met? Oh, I know it's one of your games/tests...so u tell me who this peron is?

I wanted to let him know how much I knew how mentally sick he is....I haven't met anyone....freakin liar...

and what's with the text in brackets? Uggghhh!!!

#2 Sep 14 - 9AM

hooklineandsinker

He's clearly illiterate as

He's clearly illiterate as well as disturbed ;)

#3 Sep 14 - 10AM (Reply to #33)

better off

The BEST part of the whole

The BEST part of the whole msg is "THIS WILL B MY FINAL CLOSER." hahahahaha Then she gets one the next day. It reminds me of any place I ever worked where the nutty customers (narcs)who don't get their way yell that they will NEVER come back again. If only!!! I always want to say "is that a threat or a promise?" But they always come back.

#4 Sep 14 - 11AM (Reply to #34)

empty68

Never....

Yeah, like he's told me he could NEVER be with me again, several times...then proceeds to beg me to take him back!!! Insulting one minute, professing his undying love the next...wacko!! ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

#5 Sep 14 - 12PM (Reply to #35)

cluelessuntilnow

empty68

Do not get me starting on the NEVER! I have commented on this on other posts. My exN says constantly: It will NEVER be easy, NEVER has been, NEVER will be. We can NEVER be together. We NEVER need to talk again. We both know that will NEVER happen. I honestly think it is a combination of needing to control the situation and also the classic I will reject her before she rejects me. It has become my personal joke that this is the 100th time he is NEVER speaking to me again. At least I can laugh. They are such drama kings! Oh look at me regaining some sense of humor. Finally!

#6 Sep 14 - 12PM (Reply to #36)

wholeagain

Nevernevernever

Lol clueless I got that a lot too. So many times he was never going to email me again it was like PLEASE live up to your word!

#7 Sep 14 - 1PM (Reply to #37)

NoNarcingZone

Never say Never

I got much of the same. "I'll NEVER..." They say they'll never call/text/email - yet 5 days can't go by without them making some sort of contact. Even if it's to say they'll NEVER contact you...again! Que contradictory, si? Famous last words of my N/SH: "I'll NEVER sign up for Facebook! It's a bunch of bullsh*t." Guess who's NOW on FB...with a new identity? LMAO They're such filthy pigs!

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#8 Sep 14 - 4PM (Reply to #38)

cluelessuntilnow

NoNarcingZone

OMG!!!!!! I was told three weeks ago "I'll NEVER sign up for Facebook". Are you sure your N is not my N! LOL!

#9 Sep 14 - 9PM (Reply to #39)

MsVulcan500

" I have NEVER lied to you."

#10 Sep 14 - 9AM

cluelessuntilnow

empty68

I shudder at the use of "truly". It is used every time my xN wants to apologize and get into my good graces. Sometimes I seriously wonder if there is not an N's guide to life which teaches them key phrases and words along with bad phone etiquette. And real men don't apologize for a magnitude of sins via text.

#11 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #31)

empty68

Clueless...re: truly...

Tell me about it!! They wouldn't know "true: if it slapped them in the face!! My xN used/uses that word alot too...ha!! AS IF!!! ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

#12 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #29)

Used

clelessuntilnow

the do if they are cowards, and wont do it face to face, in case you can see the total insincerity.

#13 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #30)

cluelessuntilnow

used

As I said, "real men" as opposed to "fake men". ;-) Such cowards is right, "I am sorry I abused you" via text? WTF. It is such a game. Every woman on this board deserves so much better. Infinitely better.

#14 Sep 14 - 7AM

iAmMINE

if I had a penny....

for each time he "wanted/asked/begged for forgiveness"... I could buy new art supplies!! LOL and?... there is NEVER any "closure" with them. Just sayin'... ~~~~~ â€œThe best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you donâ€™t give them,â€ --she said, (taken from my final remarks in a Sync Weekly Magazine article about my art and mySelf :)

~~~ Keep Learning & Keep Healing ~~~

~~~~~ The best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you don't give them.

#15 Sep 14 - 8AM (Reply to #26)

empty68

iAmMINE...

LOL....that's funny!! What the hell does he want my forgiveness for if I'm such a cold, mean, wicked bitch? He shouldn't care!! He should be glad he got rid of me!! LOL!! ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

#16 Sep 14 - 12PM (Reply to #27)

iAmMINE

forgiveness for...

my "beliefs that I am so mean..." he would say (devaluing my feelings and thoughts and opinions"...) I used to ask him all the time... "if I am such a bitch and I make you rage so much... why do you want to be with me, why would you want to be with a woman who makes you so mad??" He would respond, "because I love you..." ~ and to think there was a day I really believed that ahahahahahhahahaha My all time fav thing he'd say was... "you're just a whoredog barfly"... I would respond, "but I don't even go to bars"... he'd respond, "ya, well you work in one"... I work in a restaurant with a bar... I believe that's when I first started "waking up" lol Have a wonderful rest of the day empty68! ~~~~~ â€œThe best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you donâ€™t give them,â€ --she said, (taken from my final remarks in a Sync Weekly Magazine article about my art and mySelf :)

~~~ Keep Learning & Keep Healing ~~~

~~~~~ The best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you don't give them.

#17 Sep 13 - 10PM

gettinbetter

Im gonna puke

What he wants closure on... is to make sure that you infact dont have another guy. Dont ever give him that kind of info again. He just wanted to put his head on his pillow and know that someone else isnt playing with his toy. Next time dont respond but if you must tell him: "Yes thanks we did. Sorry all out of forgiveness. Anything else you need?" They all make me so sick. They really are all the same. Sorry you have had to endure that creep!

#18 Sep 13 - 10PM (Reply to #2)

empty68

sick of it....

no...I won't give him any more information again...I hate when I have those weak moments...I should have come on here before I sent that text...What a creep...it's still so hard coming to terms with how mentally disordered he is and I was in a relationship with him for 9 years...How disordered I have been!!

```Live,Laugh,love```

#19 Sep 13 - 10PM (Reply to #3)

gettinbetter

Girl trust me I know about

Girl trust me I know about the weak moments. I wanted to text today so freakin bad but I didnt. A small victory. That was an attempt to gain info from you. It worked. I cant stand to think that that creep is gonna go to bed tonite thinking "yeah I still got her." NOW DONT DO IT AGAIN!!! :) (said with love and compassion)

#20 Sep 13 - 10PM (Reply to #4)

empty68

High 5 ^

to you girl....keep it up....I just normally ignore his texts...but this one got to me.... Asshole...he just sent this to which I'm NOT replying: IM NOT SURPRISE U WUDN'T GIVE ME THE CLOSURE EVEN IF U DO FORGIVE ME (ICE)..'PROFESSIONAL HELP" CHECK URSELF B 4 U SPEAK CUZ U THINK THE WAY U BEEN/R N THE WAY U SAY N DO THINGS IS NORMAL, THAT'S SAD...SO SORRY I DIDN'T REALIZE HOW PERFECT U REALLY R I WAS SO BLINDED BY MY COCKINESS/CONCEITED N ABUSIVE WAYS N (NEVER) GAVE U THE LOVE N ATTENTION LIKE I SHUD HAVE SORRY....I DO HOPE HE WILL C N REALIZE THAT U R PERFECT IN "EVERY WAY" B 4 ITS TOO LATE..."WHATS HIS NAME?' i DIDN'T ASK/DONT CARE...I WISH TO GOD I CUD FORGET YOURS...I KNOW U, U WUDN'T ADMIT IT, U WILL JUST TWIST IT AROUND LIKE U DID EVERYTHING ELSE...WHY WUD THEY LIE?..."ME PLAYING GAMES", TO U NOW (ANYTHING) I DO R SAY IS NEGATIVE...U R A GAME! SINCE U R PERFECT, LETS HOPE HE N IDIOT CUZ THAT THE ONLY WAY ITLL WK...GOOD LUCK.."COURSE U DONT NEED GOOD LUCK" SO ALL THE BEST TO YOU ETC.

```Live,Laugh,love```

#21 Sep 14 - 1PM (Reply to #24)

tynk3377

OMG

Empty68....that's MY Narc....whatchyou doin with my narc????????? Hahahahahahahaha They really all do study from the same book don't they,.. I wish I had a nickle for every time I heard...*oh that's right YOUR perfect...I forgot*....I would be living in a mansion WITH a built in pool.... Wonder if they realise the turds we flush every day are more perfect than them to us... Sorry....vulgar moment....and an insult to turds everywhere.... Hahaha

#22 Sep 14 - 11AM (Reply to #22)

wholeagain

Oh whatEVER.

Textbook narc bullsh*t. What a douchebag. He sounds like a pissy toddler.

#23 Sep 14 - 11AM (Reply to #23)

empty68

re: douchebag

Just like a toddler indeed!!! **Wah-wah-wah-wah-wah** ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

#24 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #13)

better off

They are funny once you are

They are funny once you are over it.. and once you see the same old lines coming from each and every one of them. And they think they are so special and original. Yawn! But... why isn't he blocked? Block Block Block!

#25 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #18)

empty68

better off re: why isn't he blocked....

I blocked his #...this was sent from his daughter's #. She is innocent in all this and has no idea who her father really is...she adores him...She and I had a good relationship and I can't bring myself to block her # at this time or provide him with the ammo to smear me among his family/friends... ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

#26 Sep 14 - 10AM (Reply to #19)

better off

WHAT a pathetic LOSER.

WHAT a pathetic LOSER. Using his daughter's phone to do that? What a pig. Well... I understand that you would feel bad about blocking her number. But how old is she? Does she still text you? In any event, maybe you could just try to delete it as soon as you see that it's him.. IT SHUD BE EZ 2 TELL TEXTS FRUM DIS MORON U NO WHT I MEEN RT? DELETE!

#27 Sep 14 - 11AM (Reply to #21)

empty68

Re: pathetic loser

That he is girl, that he is. She'll be 21 in January. She texts me once in a while not very often...usually a question about computers...needing the recipe for something I used to cook for them, etc. I thought about deleting his texts as soon as I get them, but reading them also reinforces the fact of who he is and I did the right thing to leave...I also like to keep the texts in which he admits to the abuse...just in case I may need to refer to them should he try something stupid. LMAO @ " IT SHUD BE EZ 2 TELL TEXTS FRUM DIS MORON U NO WHT I MEEN RT?" ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

#28 Sep 14 - 10AM (Reply to #20)

Alive

better off

My ExN used my child last week over the phone.I am in NC, Raging at the child, projecting how he felt about himself. The child was in tears! I got the phone off her and turned it right off. What a ****. He then apologized the next day to the child???? But i know what he was up too but i can't explain this to the child as she is still quite young? all i know is that the child made me lock the doors and windows because my child was SCARED that he was going to come around??? how dare he put my child through this. You are right what a PIG and a big one at that.

#29 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #14)

better off

And the pattern is always

And the pattern is always the same... I want some pity for myself so I will apologize for how awful I am... I will apologize for the verbal abuse, and then after talking long enough (a few seconds in most cases) I will begin verbally abusing you and blaming you for everything. B-o-r-i-n-g

#30 Sep 14 - 10AM (Reply to #17)

Alive

So right

From what the child said, 'he said sorry then said nothing', all about 2 seconds i think.That was it??? but i know there is more to come, am i ready for it? I do question myself. I will just put the phone down on him again, again, again and again. He will be around i know he will.

#31 Sep 14 - 9AM (Reply to #15)

empty68

betteroff re: the pattern..

LOL...yes...VERY B-O-R-I-N-G!!! ***big yawn*** ...nothing he says is valid...asshole... ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

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