So Am I Just Lucky Or Are Other Narcs This Way, Too?
So Am I Just Lucky Or Are Other Narcs This Way, Too?
I'm just wondering if most other narcs are worthless when it comes to projects around the house. I'm asking this because I just had the most "enchanting" experience (not) involving of one the many house projects that xnh supposedly "did" during the years he mooched without paying any mortgage or utilities. Getting xnh to do anything around home was like pulling teeth. Incidentally I was usually more than willing to pay others to do the work, and then xnh would throw a huge fit because "he could do it for less". I had a fight with xnh about home repairs anyway I looked it (and months before anything got done). Xnh would frequently volunteer to start a project, and it was usually like World War III to get him to finish it. If procrastination was an art form, xnh would be an artist. If xnh DID manage to actually finish something, I've found that he did it mostly half-assed. To quote my mother, "He was Jack Of All Trades, and the master of none".
Anyway, today I came up to the front door with my hands full of groceries, and managed to drop my house keys on the front step. Normally, it is not a problem EXCEPT that this time the keys fell ALL the way down a huge gap between the foundation of the house and the porch steps that it took xnh a full summer to build. Why he left this big gap is beyond me. My only guess is that he didn't give a shit and decided that he was "done". Thus, he just left the gap and quit the job. Xnh is VERY passive-aggressive.
So after I spend almost an hour fishing down the crack with a coat hanger to get my keys back up where I could reach them in the 100 degree heat, I came into the house, and my first sight is my "charming" kitchen floor that's now half pulled up because my dishwasher crapped out last weekend. Xnh had spent many months installing this new floor (or procrastinating instead of doing it, I should say). However, he apparently couldn't be bothered to actually pull up the old flooring underneath, or move any of the appliances to put the new floor in place. He just cut the new flooring around everything over the old floor, and hid it so that I wouldn't "notice".
When the guy came to install a new dishwasher, it wouldn't go into place because the new flooring sits almost an inch higher than the old floor. Thus, I had to have another guy come pull up about half of my new floor up so the dishwasher will go into place. Thank GOD xnh was lazy and didn't glue the new floor down either, or this would have been worse. Currently I have both guys coming back tomorrow to install the dishwasher and re-install the new floor (again - correctly this time), my refrigerator is currently in the living room, and the new dishwasher is in the middle of the kitchen right in front of my microwave. What ambiance exists in my house right now!!! rofl.
I've found a ton of home projects like these that xnh supposedly "did", and I've found out later that he either did them half-assed or outright lied to me about doing the job. I guess this type of thing really doesn't surprise me because xnh is a narc that never wanted to do anything but play, play, play, and he frequently lied to me like a rug. He lied about cheating, why not home projects as well? However, it's most annoying to find yet another thing xnh DIDN'T do properly at the most inconvenient time. At least THIS time I'll pay someone to finish the job correctly, and I won't have to fight with xnh for months to get him to do it either. :) So are other narcs this lazy about doing anything around the house, or was I just "lucky" with xnh? lol.
Disordered inside and outside
Yet another funny (in an interesting way) topic...
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When my ex actually followed
Not one project finished
God, this guys are all
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MYSTERY WOMAN
most men in my sphere and Narcs
ok this helps me understand it
same here
That's comical! Actually
Yes, xnh was pathetic. lol.
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I know what you mean. God
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