Prank Him

Sam Vaknin, notorious N, who describes the narc's emotional and mental processes says that the only way to effect a narc, is to get to his vulnerability, to disempower him/her.

My narc lives online. I mean he's just camped out there all the time, where he plays the role of bon vivant, wise brilliant super witty man. I've watched other MEN become infatuated, with him--and that's heterosexual men with major man crushes.

His modus operandi, I am figuring out in hind sight, is to have a limited long term relationship with a woman in physical space and romance her for months online. After she's hooked and has left her husband, he dumps her. I'm not sure about this, as I have no corroborating reports on him, but if I'm any example....this is what he does.

Fortunately, my husband and I managed to stay together throughout this 18 month nightmare. During that same time frame, my mother and father both died, under tragic circumstances and my husband had a heart attack. Instead of backing away and making his true intentions known, the narc redoubled his efforts to have me bond even more tightly with him. After husband and I decided to split up and were discussing the divvying up of assets, this basta** dumped me. He simply vanished. No fights, no angry words, just a quiet acknowledgment that he had reached his goal and was done.

I was moving firmly into indifference a couple of months ago, letting him go but I had this niggling inner voice saying, "Don't do it, don't do it. This man emotionally raped you and it was violent as hell, torture. DON'T let him walk without paying a penalty. YOU can do it, you're up to the task and you can have fun doing it too!"

I wouldn't recommend those who aren't near indifference do this as you have to approach it with a clear mind, from a detached perspective. Justice or revenge is best served cold.

Also, you MUST find a way to do this that enhances your life, somehow...makes you laugh, etc.

Philosophically, I am opposed to letting people off the hook after they have engaged in acts that are clearly criminal in nature, even if the justice system is ill equiped to define the acts or deal with them through litigation.

I've had a really positive exchange with Allthatglitters about this. She brought up some very good points that counter my logic, but accepts the idea that every case is different and everybody is different. I appreciate the time she took and agree with her for the most part.

Pranking isn't for those who are still numb, in pain. I am acting partly on principal and it's also a creative exercise for me. I no longer feel any love for this man, nor do I feel hatred, just disgust.

The narc going to rue the day he targeted me. His ego is going to be bashed to a pulp by the time I'm through with him and he's not even going to know it's me responsible for it.

Anyway...that's what I'm doing. If anyone out there has any ideas they want to vet through the forum, this is a good thread to do it on.