Just me?

Mine had 3 ex wives and I'm sure had at least 3 OW's while being with me. It's all about juggling for them and keeping the lies straight until they want to level you with some 'truth'. Good times!! NOT

I can totally relate to "what did I do wrong". I have a friend I talk to that said, "no matter how many times we talk, it always comes back to you blaming yourself. Get rid of blaming yourself. Did you tell him to cheat, did you tell him to hit the gym every night while you cook supper and took care of kids? Did you tell him to be a selfish, all about me ass and gaslight and screw with your head?" It started me to thinking and led to a path of learning to trust and love myself. These creatures do crazy things to our minds and hearts. I had been NC for over a year, a couple of weekends ago I had to be around that narc for a funeral. I didnt engage, but boy he tried. He kept talking to people like we were BFF. I think people were embarrassed for him. when I ignored him, like a 9th grader he started talking about hot girls. This man is nearly 44. My 20 yr. son got so irrate we had to leave and go for a ride. I told my son it didnt bother me, my son just said ITS INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR. I had a teeny bit of CD from narc exposure, but it also let me know plain as day that he is who he is and I had or have nothing to do with it. For the first time, I cried for myself. I was so hard on myself and now I see it was for no reason. Didnt mean to hijack your post, just wanted you to know that eventually you will see it clearly from your point of view. I had to get away from the narc and get strong and start to heal. Then I saw him and it was so freaking obvious he was a nark that I smiled (after I cried for me). HUGS

First off YES THEY TREAT EVERYBODY THE SAME! Even if they aren't doing it to their face, they are CERTAINLY doing it behind their back. I met up with OW and she said that he was over the top nice to her, always giving her gifts, totally obsessed with her. He was with me at the same time telling me that he hadn't been with anyone else. My brother is an N and he brags about how he lies to his friends and my parents. YES, brags! They believe their manipulative nature to be a unique quality about them. TRUST ME! And not only that.. if you aren't okay with the way he treated you.. thats ALL THAT MATTERS! Something in your gut lead you here.. RUN WITH THAT!

BADLY. I thought the ex-Psych prof saved his bad behavior for women, because he was an out and proud misogynist. But he didn't. He'd give the silent treatment to male colleagues who called him by his first name. Once, during the final D&D, I was walking past a courtyard and the ex-P was talking to a senior thesis advisee-a young man. There was no eye contact. The young man was trying desperately to get eye contact from the ex-P on his senior thesis... he didn't get it. The ex-P badmouthed a fellow male colleague as a "man scorned." When I met the ex-P's girlfriend.. he abandoned her in front of his colleagues, she went running down the stairs after him and they argued. What's weird is that I remember that if I talked to my friends after a concert/lecture and the ex-P was with me, he'd simply disappear, without so much a goodbye or saying he was busy/tired. He'd up&leave. So he treated his future wife THE SAME WAY he treated me. His argument with her on the stairs was a microcosm of the looong, angry argument that was the final D&D. I wasn't a "special" target due to being a student, or being female. He was a jerk to everyone.

Well my narc had a handful of failed relationships, I was the last, he treated them all the same way and when he use to bitch about wife #3, later one it would be me who got the wrath of his narcissistic rage.They know no better, all treated alike, they are humanlike robots.YOU and all on here did nothing wrong but had the misfortune to meet these monsters................

Yep.. Proud of you girlfriend!!! Hunter