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#1 Dec 1 - 9PM
Tiffany30
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OMG! Seriously!

The ex NH just left a payment in my paper box....He texted me to let me know that it was there, of course I didn't text him back. In the envelope was the check, a note, and get this an announcement and picture of his new baby with the OW! Is he seriously sick or what? This is the baby that was conceived while we were still married (now divorced) and the OW is still married....

I know he is trying to throw it in my face because I was wanting children while we were married and he didn't..I threw the announcement away!! I didn't want to know anything about this new baby!!!

Taking some deep breaths now...not gonna let it get to me...what an asshole! Thanks for letting me vent...

Dec 2 - 8AM
Crazy Train
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Tiffany, He's sick, twisted

Tiffany, He's sick, twisted and cruel. And it was all done to hurt you. I can just picture him smirking while putting in the birth announcement. Just write it off as him being the a-hole that you know he is. The one thing that we all know, is that a Narc knows you so well & understands what hits your heart the hardest. And he did that to you. I've had incidents from mine as well. Each and every time, I'd think "WHY does he say things that he knows will hurt me?". The answer....BECAUSE HE CAN. Hugs to you, CT
Dec 2 - 3AM
freaked
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HUGS dear Tiffany

Dearie sweetie Tiffany...OMG...this profanity surpasses even my own shocking tragedy... I just want to send you the greatest big HUGS...because it is through the hugs .. the love...and the Light that I have received here at the loving forum...that i was able to begin my journey to selective amnesia of all that I went through. Stay close here, and watch the Magic happen. I vouch it happens.. just all of a sudden..and we are in a different plane where these mundane cheapos cannot touch us ever again
Dec 2 - 12AM
Blessed
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Oh my...

Sweetheart...no, it gets to you because you are real, you are human, you have a heart. Be grateful for that...that is a blessing and will be your salvation. Let it get to you, because it should. He has violated you in such a profound way. He is beyond repair, beyond cruel. So sorry, such a horrid experience. Wish I could hug you. You are amongst friends here. XOXO
Dec 1 - 10PM
empath
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Tiffany

You handled yourself so well! What a sick and twisted jerk...gee, do you think he might be a disorded Narcissist? NO reaction, is the BEST reaction. You are doing the best possible thng by staying NC, and you know that already. :-) That was just an evil move on his part. That poor innocent baby...I wouldn't be surprised if someday he finds out it isn't really his child...karma has a way of catching up to people, and the OW sounds like she's pretty desperate to get a man... Really stunned and hurt for you, that he did something that insane to try to hurt you. Congratulations to you for realizing what you were dealing with and for getting him out of your life!
Dec 1 - 11PM (Reply to #15)
empath
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You know what?

That OW's husband...is she still living with him? Does he have to deal with this being rubbed in his face every day?
Dec 2 - 4PM (Reply to #16)
Tiffany30
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No, she lives with the N just

No, she lives with the N just down the road from me. I think it is very convenient for him also. She is going through a nasty divorce with her husband. The N could have his own soap opera, LOL!
Dec 1 - 10PM
Deidre40
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You should vomit in a box,

You should vomit in a box, and mail it to him. Just kidding. lol OMG!!! I'm so sorry. That is BEYOND sick. Trust me. God will not be mocked. I fear he is evil. And he will be stopped. I pray for the poor kid who has to call that sick fuck...DAD. :=( So sorry ...please know we're here for you.
Dec 1 - 10PM (Reply to #13)
Tiffany30
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Thank you, I love to come

Thank you, I love to come here when something happens and talking to you all I always feel better and a lot stronger.. Wonder how long this relationship will last before he D&D her?
Dec 1 - 10PM (Reply to #11)
Deidre40
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and sort of a side thought

and sort of a side thought here... What kind of woman must she be, too? You know? Married, prego with this dude's kid. She 'won' a man who left his wife for her...and is rubbing his ex wife's face in his muck. I mean...what does this say about HER? WATER SEEKS ITS OWN LEVEL. They're both sick!! Might need two forks for when those two dine on karma pie someday. ;)
Dec 1 - 10PM (Reply to #12)
Tiffany30
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Yes, she is sick too.. she

Yes, she is sick too.. she came from an abusive relationship with a 2 year old kid at that.. so she really doesn't know the difference...he is still showing his good side to her for now...
Dec 1 - 10PM
ValiditySeeker
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Wow

Speechless.
Dec 1 - 10PM
Pride and Shame
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Sick

That's just sadistic. What a psychopath. Cruel. Just tell yourself - never again, never again.
Dec 1 - 10PM (Reply to #8)
Tiffany30
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Agree, Agree, Agree!

Agree, Agree, Agree!
Dec 1 - 9PM
ReclaimingPower
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*Shiver*

Sick. And the OW is now tied to him for life... *double shiver* Any chance you can look into having that money automatically deposited into your account? Another way to take that power/access away from him...
Dec 1 - 10PM (Reply to #6)
Tiffany30
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Poor OW...I am going to look

Poor OW...I am going to look into having the money automatically transferred..thanks for the suggestion.
Dec 1 - 9PM
GeorgiaGirl
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Oh my God

This would tear me to the core...seriously, no matter how "recovered" you are that is just so in-your-face. I'm so sorry. Please remember that they will do ANYTHING to elicit a reaction from you and this looks like just another from the bag 'o tricks. Seriously twisted but just another way to try and force you to contact him for more NS. Take a walk, have a glass of wine, take a bath, punch a pillow...whatever works for you! But stay NC and let him have his OW & baby. We all know how this one ends and the child will be the one to pay the price.
Dec 1 - 10PM (Reply to #2)
Tiffany30
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Thanks, but it really didn't

Thanks, but it really didn't upset me...just made me mad and even more aware of how sick he is..
Dec 2 - 5AM (Reply to #4)
Makessensenow
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Sick is right!

He is either seriously delusional that you would actually be happy for him, or just seriously cruel. How sad for a baby to come into the world with such disordered parents! I think someday you'll be really glad you didn't have kids with him, if you're not already there yet! I'm so sorry you had to go through this!
Dec 2 - 3AM (Reply to #3)
nomoredenial
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They are so f@@@@ing clueless

and self centered...he thinks you would want to know...doesnt occur to him how painful it might be nor does he care...what an ASS