Sexual emails

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#1 Nov 24 - 10AM
Marie
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Sexual emails

So, I've been free from hell for 1yr and 3months. My life has returned almost to normal. At least I no longer spend hours crying, staring listlessly into space, walking around with a feeling of hopelessness and dread. I have moments of anger but even that has subsided substantially. Up until now I've maintained no contact at least from my side, never contacting him about anything. From time to time he pops by, if not caught outside off guard, I never open my door to him. That being said after so much time wouldn't you think a person would stop contacting you? He also was the one that ended all contact to begin with. Shut his cell off, blocked his online account or changed screen name. Would ignore me if he ran into me in the street as if I weren't there. After all that and a year later I thought it was safe to unblock my name for email. Wrong! I received an email with a smiley emoticon in the subject line just a few weeks ago. Out of curiosity I opened it. It was a dog humping a tiger. After a year and three months this is what he sends? This is just more proof what a sick individual this is. My fault I know, I should never have opened it and will keep this in mind for the future. Curiosity just go the better of me. This is also more proof that once you know what they are don't ever assume after any length of time things will change. They are just sick, f*cked up individuals.

Nov 24 - 7PM
cynthia (not verified)
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a dog humping a tiger

unbelievable, he probably thought that was cute or funny, I would have thought YA, SAME AS ALWAYS, I AM NOT MISSING A DAMN THING, sex sex sex, humping, that is all they ever think about when they think of us, all we are really good for to them
Nov 24 - 5PM
Carolyn
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The dog humping the tiger is

The dog humping the tiger is a really crazy thing to send anyone. You asked if they ever give up. My neighbor had a terrible experience married to one and lost everything. He called her often after he dumped her for another woman and in one call he said, "if you taught me English we never would have divorced-he was a top Spanish speaking executive in an American company in Central America. She was confused, of course, as he got a girl pregnant in the company and lost his job then divorced her. I had her look at this site and it has helped her immensely to understand what kind of a nut she was married to. Last week he called her and quite put out stated that he realized she no longer loved him. She divorced him 15 years ago after he emptied her bank accouts and left with the pregnant teenager! For the first time she got it and just laughed and hung-up. She told me to thank you all for the great commentaries and for your examples so that she got the game and is no longer a victim. She went to a therpaist for years and in a few months looking at this website she was cured. good work ladies!
Nov 26 - 5AM (Reply to #9)
Marie
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dog and tiger

All I could think was what a sick so and so and how glad I never made the mistake of moving in with him or worse marrying him. He begged me to but by the time he started asking I was already not feeling good about things with him. The only thing outside of getting his jollies by sending an email to me with sexual content was that it had a tiger in it. He knows I love tigers so who knows in some sick way he must have thought I'd like the picture because it has a tiger in it and wouldn't be offended. Who knows, who cares I no longer try to analyze him, he's just a sick predator. This is the same reason I blocked him initially, I'd get an email out of the blue. No how are you or anything like that just some sex email.
Nov 26 - 8AM (Reply to #10)
quietude (not verified)
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marie

Yes, of course he had to send you that particular picture because you love tigers ~ I mean, there are NO other pictures of tigers he could have possibly sent you! (sarcasm!!) It was a deliberate sick and twisted attempt to rattle you in some way, I'm sure. We've talked about this in the forums before about how they send us sick stuff. As Barbara has said, they want to keep us in that state of confusion. I would get a loving e-mail from my ex, then later, something VERY off-color that a friend would send to him (not my kind of humor). I tried to be a sport at first, but when I told him in a polite way that I really didn't like that kind of thing, he took me off the distribution list and NEVER sent me anything like that again. So I got nothing, not even the cute/funny ones. I was out of the COOL CLUB I guess! He subtly made me feel bad about it, like I didn't have a sense of humor & like I was totally prude. But that's an N for you, they love to punish us for 'bad behavior'.
Nov 24 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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support not therapy

remember this forum is never to be used as a replacement for therapy (with a therapist who GETS IT) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem
Nov 24 - 2PM
itreallyisabouthim
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Sheesh really? It's like a

Sheesh really? It's like a game of whack-a-mole, getting rid of some people. He's probably always going to be out there waiting to make your day. Yes, a good reminder of how sick he is, but still stuff you didn't need to have invade your brain.
Nov 24 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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block

Psycho-Boy would go on & on about how "wrong" our relationship was while luring me back in. Then he'd send me pics of his family. Family emails. And emails with SEXUAL JOKES OR PICTURES on them. It was MIND NUMBING. Part of a brainwashing technique called CONFUSION TECHNIQUE. BLOCK HIM!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem
Nov 24 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
Marie
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Block him

Yes, Barbara I have once again. I stupidly figured after all this time and not hearing from him that it was finally done. I should know better with an N it's only done when they're dead it seems. I don't want to be bombarded again by all this stuff once more from him. When I first blocked him I had too because somehow he saved all the cute emails he first sent me that initially roped me in. Not one day went by that I didn't get an email from him. Even when he had a job for a bit, he made time to have an ecard sent for the morning. So to see all of those again was too painful and I didn't want to get sucked in again. I'm so much happier with no contact, silence is indeed golden. Thanks Barbara!
Nov 25 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
time_to_move_on
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mine did that with emails...

as in keeping all the cute ones. He used to reply to emails to keep 'em all in a chain. When I'd told him where to go after our numerous rows he'd send a blubbing one saying "what a shame it was we've split" and have it as the top email in a chain of emails where we were going on about our love for each other (now I know it obviously wasn't love of course ;)) And when we split he'd send an email saying "can't we stay in touch", again, attached to other emails. After going through his emails I realised he did this to everyone in his life. It was all pre-meditated. Not saying us "normal humans" never do this but he did it ALL the time. That's why after this split, he got blocked. Keep up the blocking and your good work.. they are such idiots.
Nov 24 - 12PM
quietude (not verified)
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marie

Well girl, if anything, it helped you greatly reinforce how sick-o he is! I'll go back occasionally and read old e-mails where my exN was being a total...N! This actually brings me a lot of relief in thinking, wow..I am so lucky to be away from that freak! As far as contacting you still after all this time, they have little perception of time, space, or reality. As normal, sane people, we can't quite figure out how they do so many contrary things. But after a while it's almost like nothing is surprising anymore.
Nov 24 - 7PM (Reply to #2)
Amazed
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One more thing to catch you off guard

Wow I can't believe he is still after his silly games after a year and a half!!! Geeeezzzz!! Good to know, that they are still scheming trying to break you down,,gotta have your guard up. Yes, it seems innocent and fun in the beginning (oooohh, a smiley face,,maybe he is normal!) Naaahaaa It is really scary how wacked these individuals can be. OMG, the horror, it keeps playing back, it will take time. Please don't subject yourself to more,,,they for some odd reason, have a ploy and reason to irk you and devastate you. It is no fun. It is something you have to innoculate yourself for. Build up that immune system, and call it coming before he gets you and block him!! Immunity!!!!!