Wow...time sure flies....
Wow...time sure flies....
I am quickly approaching 5 months of NC and honestly....I don't even think about Mr. N anymore. Sure, there is the occasionally "trigger" when a song comes on by his favorite band or a movie that he liked or other things along those lines...but that is just a passing memory now. I have no urge to contact him, look at his FB page or even google on his name. I hold no ill towards him....just want him to continue with his life and let me continue with mine.
I want to give hope to those members who are new and think they will NEVER get over the Narc. That's how I felt when I first joined and believe me, I went though an entire additional year in the grips of an addiction I thought was too strong to break...and I even went back....only to find the same treatment and a man who had not changed at all. NC requires work...but it is the BEST work you will ever do for yourself. Once you are free from their influence, you have a chance to redefine yourself as you see yourself...not as some disordered person sees you.
There is a peace in the letting go of a relationship that can offer you nothing but continued heartache.
HUGS!!!
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So happy for you TNR!
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YAY FOR YOU!!!! Isn't it
Wahooooooooo!!