Anxiety avoidance - bad?

Hi all,

I was here back in May and June, but left the site because I felt like I needed to spend less time thinking about my ex.

It's been 5 months since we broke up, and I'm feeling better, stronger. Even happy sometimes. I've gone on a few dates though they didn't pan out. (And... I attracted another narc! Ha! I smelled the crazy and was able to avoid him though--that felt good!)

So, I have a question. My therapist says that I am avoiding anxiety by avoiding him. I've been NC for all 5 months. That's been good. However, we are both in a social scene together, and I've been avoiding nights when he goes out. I feel anxiety and fear when I think about seeing him (or god forbid, dancing with him).

She thinks maybe I should test putting myself in the position to see him out socially, and face my fears.

I decided to quit the scene we are both in (social dancing). Truthfully, only part of it is because of him. Part of me is just done with the clique-y social dance scene anyway.

Although I'm over the relationship logically, in my mind, I still have some sort of emotional attachment to it that is still causing me anxiety.

I guess my question is... is it ok if I try to never see or speak to him again? Or should I try to face my fears? It makes me sick to think about seeing him again. I don't want to be a coward though. I just want to get over this situation and move on with my life.