no contact

After almost a year of in and out contact I took some good advice and decided zero contact for a min. 30 days. I have been over this guy ( so I thought ) for months now. So he calls to update me on his kids, where he lives, cuz he's so courteous. I thought it was harmless, but know I realize the weight he puts on my progression. Every word, every message, every inkling of him is counterproductive. I am enjoying things that were absent before. He needs to stat gone and that is up to me.