Spot the Narc on the first date

Hello Ladies,

I am so encouraged that I am not alone in this journey of recovery. It's so scary to think of getting serious with a man again after being totally belittled and beaten down by a Narc. It breaks my heart that so many of us have had to go through this.

The last 3 relationships I have had were with narcissists. I just broke up with the last one a month ago. The first two months were like a dream come true, and then the truth started to unravel. He appeared to be a selfless saint only to become the most selfish man alive. It's funny, after my last 3 bfs, I'm amazed of how many different ways a man can be selfish. Amazing.

I know that charm is deceitful, and the charm of a Narc is unprecedented. For the most recent Narc in my life, I DID think he was full of it and too good to be true, but he kept charming me until my guard was down. I guess the lesson here was to trust my first instincts.

I have had too many boyfriends, best friends and roomates that were Narcs. They can actually give you a heart attack. They are toxic for your health.

Has anyone yet formulated some sort of secret test that can be done on the first date to spot these losers? Something??? Ladies, we need to figure out some sort of question or scenario that a Narc's true colors will be revealed right away!