Help me to stay NC!
Help me to stay NC!
Hi all,
I'm new around here. I posted my story in share your story. It's only been 4 weeks since the end of the relationship and I've been trying to do no contact - completely ignored the last four attempts from the person concerned to get in touch with me.
I thought I had turned a corner and was feeling stronger but the last couple of days have been hard. I keep getting intrusive thoughts about the 'good' times. I try to counter them with memories of the cruel and harsh devaluing process and remember how fast I was losing weight, wasn't sleeping and so on. My rational self knows this is healthier than having her in my life. But STILL I feel so sad at the thought that what felt so real and precious was just a game.
I am getting urges to get in touch to ask what it all meant, what she really feels, why she has behaved this way... I know it's pointless... I only ever got evasive, vague answers whenever I tried to clarify feelings. She just ran away from my questions - openly admitted they just made her withdraw.
Can anyone give me any tips about how to deal with the urge to get in touch?
Thanks!
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