Two months ago

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#1 Jul 13 - 7PM
NinjaGirl
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Two months ago

Two months ago today my boyfriend of almost six years broke up with me. He broke up with me a little more than a week after being so loving and sweet to me. He broke up with me five days after I took him to see Iron Man 2 for his birthday. He broke up with me three days after I made him a cake and bought presents and celebrated his birthday with him. He broke up with me two days after telling me there was "always hope" and that he'd never dump me again without a lot of mutual conversation and trying to work on problems.

He broke up with me a little more than a week before what would have been our six-year anniversary.

GOOD. FREAKING. RIDDANCE.

I just wish he had timed it BEFORE his birthday so I didn't have to spend that time making that cake and buying those presents for him.

Yes, I still get sad. Yes, I still get lonely. Yes, I still think about him. Yes, I still miss the good times. I still don't know if he was truly a narcissist.

But in the end, he chose to let me go. In the end, it's his loss, not mine.

I have not contacted him for 18 days and will continue to not contact him. I have no reason to. I live for myself and my true loved ones now.

Happy two-month anniversary of your freedom and the start of your new life, Ninja Girl.

Jul 14 - 9PM
querida
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congratulations to you on 2

congratulations to you on 2 months, and thank you for being a clear but kind voice to those on this board. Keep going, girl....
Jul 14 - 6PM
Amy
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You are awesome! Thank you

You are awesome! Thank you for posting what you do! I am very happy for you. :)
Jul 14 - 6PM
Leah2
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Adding to the others...

...you are an inspiration in so many ways, Ninjagirl. Stay strong, but do not be afraid to tell us when you need support; you give so much, so let us help replenish you. As far as the cake and the presents go, I so sympathise; I went out of my way to plan fun things--weekends, trips abroad, small gifts--for my ex-husband. I'm not sure he every understood. Don't regret these things; they are testimony to how much you have in your heart to give, as you give to us too.
Jul 14 - 4PM
NinjaGirl
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Thank you!

I'm not fully healed, of course, and I expect it to take months to get there, but every day above ground is a good one, right?
Jul 14 - 5PM (Reply to #10)
Lisa E. Scott
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Ninjagirl

I know, recovery is a process, but you are doing an amazing job and are such a source of inspiration to so many! Congrats again!
Jul 14 - 11AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Ninjagirl

Congrats on 2 months, Ninjagirl! You truly are an inspiration! xoxo
Jul 13 - 8PM
sarah787
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You truly are an

You truly are an inspiration. You have been one of my many angels here, and sometimes I forget those of you who give such advice haves struggled as well. You are so right about everything. They chose to let us go. It doesn't matter who or what they are- that in itself should be enough. Next week it will be 5 months since he broke my heart. 5 months since my cousin died in Haiti. 5 months when I begged him to hold my hand through a tragedy. 5 months where he broke me into pieces and flew to Miami to hook up with girls, and ignore me for months. I've only made in 2 days of NC. ( Although my longest was 34!!!)..but I'm beginning to WANT it to end, and see it for what it really was. Life HAS to get better. Ninja girl you are an inspiration:)
Jul 13 - 7PM
Steph
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Nicely written! Congrats on

Nicely written! Congrats on 2 months!!!
Jul 13 - 7PM
Bodhi
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Wow

You sound great for being two months out... keep up the good work and positive thoughts :) And it doesn't matter if he's diagnosable or not... he didn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and that's enough of a reason to say good riddance!
Jul 13 - 7PM
lynn61
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yay ninjagirl

beautifully written! i couldn't have written out my own feelings in a more articulate fashion! and i hope, like me, you are starting to enjoy and like yourself more and more every day. XXOO's Lynn

really??

Jul 14 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
Janet
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Congratulations. I am

Congratulations. I am really impressed with the insight you have at 2 months. You have really helpful, positive comments and advice (when asked for). Good for you, he never deserved to have your love in the first place. You are a Ninja girl! Peace. J

Peace. J

Jul 14 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Used
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ninjagirl

congrats i liked that but it gave me a wake call when we were fighting and screaming he stayed when i bought him something or nice to him he disapearei read somewhere they live for abuse,and abusing, sick a
Jul 14 - 6PM (Reply to #4)
Happy1
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Ninjagirl

Congratulations on 2 months! You are so strong and so supportive. You're doing so great!!