Thought for Today

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#1 Jul 20 - 4PM

betty2020

Thought for Today

I was telling Lisa that i think it would be a great idea if we began a post that would be permanent at the top of the board for all of us to write a "thought for today".

I cant begin to tell you how many times i have been in the worst mood ever, troubled beyond belief and really just needed an encouraging word from someone who understands where i have been. I have only been able to find it here with all of you.

Your insight, wisdom and humor is what has really kept me going through all of this. I thought it would be great to make a book of "thoughts for today", just for us. We have a slight different perspective on life, love and humor b/c of our history with the N. I have never laughed so hard at statements (still laughing at the abbreviation Ass....that just stands for ass...lol you know who your are) that i know my other friends just dont get, on this forum. I really think this would be a great meditation tool for everyone later down the road.

So i asked Lisa and she thinks it would be a great idea. I would like to know your thoughts.

Would you contribute to this book?

It could be a simple one liner statement or a small paragraph. The only requirement would be that it pertains to narcissism and recovery. This would be an original thought or comment from our members. It may be funny, serious or even strange as long as it comes from you. Don't forget your TM BTW.

Later down the road if we are able to put this in book form, your posts may be in there. Let me know YAy or NAy on this issue and i will talk to Lisa about puting this up at the top of the board.

Luv to you all

xoxoxo

#2 Sep 9 - 8PM

Nicole96

Thought(s) for the day

These are things i have been abbreviating with a sharpie on my wrist each morning i feel i need something to remind me... DTIP - Don't Take It Personally (THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE) HHAD - He Has A Disorder (or HNH He Needs Help) YCHH - You Cant Help Him REY - Resist Exposing Yourself (emotionally)(kind of goes with NC) another thing - its like a "Mutating Virus" if you tried to stay and make it work you might find a "cure" but then it mutates and you need another and then another and another. It will not stop! (i think i may have heard this from Melanie evans?)

#3 Sep 9 - 5PM

betty2020

only one way to go...Forward

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#4 Aug 31 - 9AM

betty2020

But I do like your fast

But I do like your fast forward statement. I'm sure many of us when we think of N fast forwared 5 years picture him happily married being Dr. Jekyl, Mr Perfect, Mr Charming forever and ever. But I guess all we really need to do is look back over the last 5 years and see that that is the best predictor.. tons of failed relationships and cycling through 100s of women. Loveofmylife only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#5 Aug 31 - 12AM

betty2020

the eight steps Mon,

the eight steps Mon, 08/30/2010 - 23:27 â€” helldweller My ex husband is a recovering alcoholic and I just wanted to mention that, in the twelve years I've known him, it is so obvious when he is "working the steps"--when he is conscious of his history and working on his shortcomings in dealing with them. I know when he's working them because he is at peace, no matter what. I think we all need to keep our steps in mind, too. When the alcoholic is not drinking but is not "working the steps" they call it a "dry drunk"--basically, you act like an alcoholic even though you are off the addictive substance. I have noticed that in myself, too. When I come away from the board and think I can just go off into the world and deal with it and be okay, I'm angry, bitter, resentful and definitely not NC only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#6 Aug 23 - 9AM

better off

Sure. :-) I used to work at

Sure. :-) I used to work at a company that was all men except for me.. and I learned some interesting expressions there, ones I rarely use because I generally don't use coarse language, except for describing narcs!! lol Here's a great one for the board: "You can't polish a turd." Oh, and I said the ASS thing, lol. That was original. haha

#7 Aug 23 - 10AM (Reply to #31)

betty2020

hahaha. You guys crack me

hahaha. You guys crack me up. And im still laughing about the ASS too! Thanks better off only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#8 Aug 23 - 9AM (Reply to #30)

almostlydia

betteroff

damn, girl, you just keep me in stitches, LMAO:) 'you can't polish a turd' man oh man, you crack me up. thanks, I needed that. I never used 'coarse' language much either until 10 yrs with the exN. Now it just flows from my mouth. Oh, and would someone tell me what IMAO means? almostlydia

almostlydia

#9 Aug 23 - 8AM

Goldie

Very Excellent Idea

I love it and actually I just began a post about this sort of thing, so I'll put it on here as well. You are smokin Betty. You are very good at what you are doing here and I want to say I appreciate your time and devotion to all of us and we are very fortunate to have you and Lisa. You are loved Betty, you are a good woman, you are the real deal and this site has competely turned around since you have taken over as moderator. Thank you!!!!!! "How do you reconcile the unacceptable; the incomprehensible; the unforgivable? You don't. You give it up to God and pray for the wisdom and the strength to let it go. Forgiveness will come and it is within that very act of forgiveness that the miracles can occur." God bless, Goldie

#10 Aug 20 - 11AM

betty2020

When your boundaries are

When your boundaries are stronger than the Narcs manipulation......You have one the battle. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#11 Aug 23 - 7AM (Reply to #27)

Lisa E. Scott

Turn, Turn, Turn

Words-adapted from The Bible, book of Ecclesiastes Music-Pete Seeger To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn) There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn) And a time to every purpose, under Heaven A time to be born, a time to die A time to plant, a time to reap A time to kill, a time to heal A time to laugh, a time to weep To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn) There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn) And a time to every purpose, under Heaven A time to build up,a time to break down A time to dance, a time to mourn A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn) There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn) And a time to every purpose, under Heaven A time of love, a time of hate A time of war, a time of peace A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn) There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn) And a time to every purpose, under Heaven A time to gain, a time to lose A time to rend, a time to sew A time for love, a time for hate A time for peace, I swear it's not too late

#12 Aug 13 - 5PM

betty2020

Success as revenge--besides,

Success as revenge--besides, it's legal (TM) Fri, 08/13/2010 - 16:30 â€” Susan32 only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#13 Aug 8 - 9PM

betty2020

"Chick on a Stick" Narcdx3

"Chick on a Stick" Narcdx3 (tm) only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#14 Aug 5 - 6AM

betty2020

IT IS BY MOVING ON WE DEFEAT

IT IS BY MOVING ON WE DEFEAT OUR ABUSER, MINIMIZING HIM & HIS IMPORTANCE IN OUR LIVES. faithinthefuture tm only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#15 Aug 1 - 9AM

faithinthefuture

I Can Be Grateful

Read this in a book after I kicked N out I can be grateful for being shown what I don't want, that I deserve love and it will come into my life. Have it posted all over my home and at work.

#16 Jul 27 - 10PM

betty2020

"Just don't look at any of

"Just don't look at any of your ex's stuff...block them : ) Block their family and friends too. Nobody needs a narc by proxy" HitandRun TM only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#17 Jul 23 - 3PM

betty2020

YOU are NOT replaceable, and

YOU are NOT replaceable, and you are not kleenex. ShaynasMommy TM only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#18 Jul 23 - 4PM (Reply to #19)

ShaynasMommy

Hey thanks for the vote!

And you just reminded me to be more careful and use (TM) more often. Like I wouldn't want to offend the Kleenex guys....

#19 Jul 23 - 5PM (Reply to #20)

betty2020

LMAO...to funny only one way

LMAO...to funny only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#20 Jul 23 - 2PM

Used

devil

when you sup with the devil there is hell to pay

#21 Jul 23 - 2PM

betty2020

"The Devil can quote

"The Devil can quote scripture. It's the behavior that you should pay attention to". TM Briseis. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#22 Jul 22 - 11PM

betty2020

"It's hard to plan for the

"It's hard to plan for the future when you are looking in the rearview mirror". (TM TNR1) only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#23 Jul 21 - 3PM

smileyfacepr

I say

YAY!!!!!!!!!!

smileyfacepr

#24 Jul 21 - 4AM

grossot

thought for the day

YAy:o) http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview nolongercontrolled

http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview

nolongercontrolled

#25 Jul 21 - 8AM (Reply to #13)

betty2020

Thank you for this article.

Thank you for this article. It should be on a post of its own. I really like how it explains Ambient Abuse. xoxoxox only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#26 Jul 21 - 3AM

girlfriday

Fab idea!

#27 Jul 21 - 2AM

NancyM

Totally

It is great to be able to speak to people that get it. Also I think that one of the biggest things we can do is change the way we think about things, like in the emotional memory article that I posted recently. Make your memories funny, instead of hurtful.

Nevergoback

#28 Jul 21 - 9AM (Reply to #10)

Lisa E. Scott

NancyM

Great point! I'm half-way through reading the article you posted on emotional memory. A lot of good stuff in there, which we can use in our 8 steps to relationship recovery. Thanks again for sharing!

#29 Jul 21 - 8AM (Reply to #9)

betty2020

I couldn't agree more Nancy.

I couldn't agree more Nancy. We have a very colorful group of individuals in our niche due to the life experiences we have been through. This humor is priceless to our recovery and i hope we can offer it to the new members as a support tool. I cant wait to see what we come up with!!! xoxoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#30 Jul 21 - 12AM

almostlydia

I'm looking for the 'like'

I'm looking for the 'like' button.

almostlydia

#31 Jul 21 - 3PM (Reply to #7)

smileyfacepr

lmao

lmao...FB

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