Why He Won't Ever (sincerely) Apologize
Why He Won't Ever (sincerely) Apologize
Had a realization this morning and figured I'd share it with all of you who, like I am, are in the stage where the anger at not receiving a sincere apology is overwhelming....
To apologize sincerely would mean to accept fault. To accept fault would be possible only after deep introspection and education. The Ns are not introspective, nor have they spent the significant amount of time that we all have trying to educate themselves about their disorder, receiving therapy, talking on a support forum, talking to friends and family, etc. They haven't done the hard work that we've done. So, since they can't accept fault, they can't apologize. They sincerely think that they didn't do anything drastically wrong. And personality disorders ARE drastic - they are an embedded pattern of thinking that leads to the same dysfunctional behaviors over and over.
The scourge of NPD in particular is that the person who is that way cannot admit he/she has a problem, cannot admit that he/she needs help in any positive way (self-soothing addictive behaviors are not "help") and therefore cannot admit fault. To do so would be to shatter the image they have built up of themselves as a protective barrier and would literally mean psychological suicide.
Morty
Morty
Good article
Yep
closure
closure and deathbed confeessions
Not worth the deathbed conversion
apologies real or not, who needs it
Very very true and good
Hey morty
Honestly...
Validation
Better off
Hits a nerve
A little flirting
Morty
Cerebral with Lots of P/A Behavior Mixed In
Limerence
meadowbrook
Excellent analysis... he
Gibberish that sounds like English
meadowbrook
Bad news
Oh, yes, been there, done
his "addiction" (to himself) LOL!!!
Oh NO!!
Wow, how original, he sent
I know you are, but what am I?
It's called brain damage.
There's no there, there