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#1 Oct 5 - 5AM
truthseeker
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90 DAYS NC

today. Yesterday I had a brief spell of melancholy. We met right before fall. So this time of year reminds me of the beginning. I know it's part of the process. Then the anger came back, also part of the healing phase. Last year when I ended it, then the efforts he made for me to come back. Great efforts, only to have him say I think we're done when I came home from a funeral.He ended it and still never left me alone and though I didn't waiver there was constant push/pull. The catalyst, OW+ on Facebook. Stay NC. IT TAKES WHAT IT TAKES. YOU'RE NOT READY TO SEE, WHAT YOU'RE READY TO SEE UNTIL YOU'RE READY TO SEE IT.

Oct 5 - 7PM
michele115 (not verified)
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Congrats!

And may you continue on your journey and be rid of the NARC once and for all!
Oct 5 - 6PM
truthseeker
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to everyone who posted

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR COMMENTS AND WISHES. lOVE TO ALL
Oct 5 - 1PM
enoughalready
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Congrats!!

Well stated. " it takes what it takes , you're not ready to see what you're ready to see until you're ready to see it" . So true!! And once you see it.... you'll know NC was the best thing you've done for yourselve as well as your own self worth.
Oct 5 - 1PM
empty68
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Good for you TS!!!!

Congratulations.....good for you!!!...I hope to be in your place one day.... ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```

Oct 5 - 8AM
blueeyes
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90 days question for truthseeker

Have you found that your personality came back yet? That's what I miss the most.
Oct 5 - 6PM (Reply to #17)
truthseeker
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blueeyes

It is coming back. I sat in the sun this weekend for the first time in 6 months. I have been making co-workers laugh all week. I just started listening to music in my car again for the first time in over a year. I'm not 100% back to myself, I definitely have my melancholy days, but it's getting better. Peace to you.
Oct 5 - 8AM
ewa
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Fantastic 90 days!!! You are

Fantastic 90 days!!! You are really an example for us!
Oct 5 - 7AM
blueeyes
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90 days :)

Dear truthseeker, First, congrats! I read your story last night and it broke my heart. Secondly, when I read this post today I cried for all of us. I'm still stuck in stage 4. I admire all of the woman who are free. I'm crying now for sadness that this happened to all of us. Its sad. I can't wait to be free. I'm still in and out of brainwashing even knowing thr truth! I'm happy to see a post about 90 days of NC. Good for you.
Oct 5 - 6PM (Reply to #14)
truthseeker
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blueeyes

thanks for your post and for reading my story.
Oct 5 - 8AM (Reply to #13)
NancyM
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Getting out

I still cry for all of us, it is not something we lose even if we get out.

Nevergoback

Oct 5 - 6AM
jen79
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more than 2 years

I realized today, that it is more than 2 years ago I met him. 2 years I am now already in this agony. 2 years of my life in constant pain and depression and drama. This has to end, now. It is over. Jesus, weird that I realize this now, IT IS OVER! I dont know what is waiting for me out there, my life is in ashes...but I am willing to be the phoenix.
Oct 5 - 6PM (Reply to #11)
truthseeker
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jen79

that's right honey, you be the phoenix. he like all the rest can continue to be the parrot. without an original thought or word in their head. They've taken enough of our sunlight.shine on.
Oct 5 - 8AM (Reply to #8)
blueeyes
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Jen

It's been 2 years for me too. I am ready but stuck. As soon as I get strenghth, he pulls me in. I am now searching for an easy way out which is ridiculous because there is no easy way. There is one way and that's NC!
Oct 5 - 9AM (Reply to #9)
jen79
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Blueeyes

he did the same with me. As if they have supernatural radar for energy arising. They know when you have nothing to give anymore cause of exhaustion and they seem to sense as soon as there's some energy to steal again from us.... NOT this time!!! I swear by my mother, by my eye, I swear to god - this time it is over, I am done!
Oct 5 - 9AM (Reply to #10)
blueeyes
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Jen, good for you

Stay mad! I was mad and for 3 weeks I have the life sucked out of me. I will go NC and I know i am done also. I just need to MAKE it happen. Nancy, I can see why we all cry for the ones who get out. It's an emotional expierence!
Oct 5 - 6AM (Reply to #7)
Used
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jen79

well done ...what ever life holds... it cant be as bad as we had with the narc.... you will do it...2years...dont waste anymore of your precious life... i think of my time with him as 5years of self inflicted pain...never again..
Oct 5 - 5AM
helldweller
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truthseeker

Wow, that is amazing. I am so inspired by you. I'm going to get there, too! Have a beautiful day!
Oct 5 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
truthseeker
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helldweller

thank you for the wishes. maybe one day you can change your user name to cloudweller. heres to wishing that for you.
Oct 5 - 5AM
Sherbear
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Good for you!!

90 Days NC is amazing!! My catalyst and the reason for sticking to NC is also an OW and Facebook!! Seeing is believing!! And I am so happy that I got to see it so that I can finally go NC and mean it! Day 44 today for me and feeling good. I am detaching, I can feel it!! Have a great day!
Oct 5 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
truthseeker
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Sherbear

thanks! You'll be there before you know it. Facebook is the Devil.
Oct 5 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
empty68
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Wish mine had an OW....

or would just fall off the face of the earth!!!! **Grrrrrrrr** ```Live,Laugh,love```

```Live,Laugh,love```