Twilight zone again - does it ever reach a point where it can't shock us anymore?
Twilight zone again - does it ever reach a point where it can't shock us anymore?
Hiya everybody, I'm having a delayed reaction to the latest stunt from the ex-N. I've been in this loop before & I know I'll come through it & at first this situation made me laugh - which I think is a good sign right? But a day later I'm having the WTF?....really WTF??!! reaction & shock & I'm feeling an urge just to get it out, to talk about it because I'm a little worried I might just go nuts if I don't.
Yesterday I got an out of the blue email from ex-N, absolutely dripping with sweet platitudes, care for my well-being, oh isn't it great we can be friends like this....oh and a favour request. Could I look through my house to see if his birth certificate was anywhere & if so, could I mail it express to him? He's in a pickle & it'd be a brilliant help if I could, he'd pay all expenses of course & only if it were no trouble for me. Ended it with a f-ing winking, smiling emoticon. Will be changing that email address.
So. Why does this bother me?
1) We lived together in my house for 5 years. ExN left the relationship after a long discussion when I caught him cheating. He cried & begged & then went to work & never came home again, leaving ALL his belongings behind. I tried for months to get him to pick it up or tell me an address I could ship it to or even forward his mail to - he avoided. So I had to deal with the crap. I told him I was throwing it all out & if he wanted anything he'd have to tell me. And its been over a year now.
2) The reason he needs his birth certificate. A week after walking out of our house he moved in with the one he was cheating on me with; sorry with her & her parents - she's 21 [he's 34]. Within 6 months he & she were engaged, within 9 months they were married. He's been living in the country on an expired temporary visa - he got engaged just before the visa ran out. He used his passport for ID for the marriage celebrant but to get it legally registered he needs more ID. He has no drivers license, valid immigration papers etc....so all that is left is his birth certificate.
So. He thinks I've still got all his belongings just neatly packed up & stored for him. He thinks I'd jump at the chance to do him a favour. And he thinks there's nothing wrong with asking ME to find his birth certificate & mail it to him so he can get his marriage to the OW registered, a marriage that happened while I was still sobbing myself to sleep at nights, and a marriage to a poor 21 year old who I think has NO idea about what he is [and I think he's using for citizenship....] and he thinks I'M going to help him out?
It made me fume when I first read it but it also did make me laugh. And for me its just another giant sign of who he really is [truly combats any rogue "nice reminiscing" I might do]. But I'm slipping a bit now & I just had to write it & post it. Can this really have happened? The whole thing just eludes me.
Thank you for being here & giving me an avenue to do this. Ava xx
hi Ava,
Hiya onwithmylife :)
Ava
I cant beleive his courage.
Thanks Godhasaplanforme :)
Ava
Courage
Nevergoback
I think what she means by courage
Yeh, its "balls" isn't it, but in a unscrupulous
Ava
Probably not :)
oh my! babies w poopy diapers! Briseis you've made me laugh hys
Ava
Narcs are as shameless as a
Or....I could just use his mirth certificate AS a tenalady
Ava
There you go, now you know
You know I actually think I've heard something about voodoo &
Ava
ROTFL!!
LMAO!!
Probably not
Unbelievable
Thank you Rose xx
Ava
Well AVA
I agree. Just ignore him.
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Thanks mystwoman :)
Ava
Oh thank you michele :)
Ava
Yeah! I love that there was
almostlydia
Thanks almostlydia :)
Ava