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#1 Aug 27 - 8AM
courtneyj
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Yesterday

The other woman I believe was Isabelle the woman whom I would later receive a text message from saying, she is “fucking Ed -----.” I Received that two days after he left my parents house in February after looking at wedding halls with me and his youngest son.

She received my number because saw a text come on Ed’s phone from her. I messaged her from my phone prior and found out who she was.

He said she was crazy drunk he met in a bar one night. He was trying to help her get a job. Hahahah I still laugh about this one, only now its actually funny.

I recently tried to email her, because I feel I need some closure and I deserve to know the truth. Ed still speaks to this woman even though he has a girlfriend. In fact she called him when I was in New York and saw him at a Starbucks. Well Isabelle called him and told him about the email. Ed’s response was to threaten law enforcement. That’s funny, because two days ago, he just sent me a message that he misses me.

She didnt reply to my email. This leads me to beleive that this relationship is still going on and he is afraid that his girlfriend will find out, especially since he is getting so mad and threatening me. Thoughts?

http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com

Aug 30 - 12PM
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The woman my ex was cheating

The woman my ex was cheating with was a real gossip about me as he told her a lot of things that weren't true. She divorced him within the year and lost her public relations job with a major university because I was a press secretary to a major elected official in our city and the University was informed that none of these things were true and were creating a problem for the school. As long as he worked for the media she was ok but when he was fired for his crazy behavior she found herself fired from her job. Getting jealous, or feeling sorry for the next victim can be a real waste of your emotions. They get into the game by being his ally against you and then it blows up for them. It is best to maintain no contact with the whole drama and all of the players. Cut your losses, heal the terrible damage they have done to you in your own time, and then get away from all of it. These men and the 'other' women they get involved with always end up in some mess with everyone trying to figure out what to do next. this gives the narcissist too much control.
Aug 30 - 12PM
Carolyn
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This guy Ed has a lot of

This guy Ed has a lot of energy. He has more war fronts going than Hitler had in the second world war. He is so obvious in his hatred of women that you need to think about getting out of his war arena. You don't belong there. Why would any rational man try to get a job for a crazy, drunken woman? He is just labeling, and slandering, and harming any woman who gets into his arena. He is sadistic, cruel, and likes to hurt and harm. No contact is hard because he played on your emotions and you have a love/hate re-action that is all normal. I think he needs to harm women to feel in control and by having contact you are giving him what he needs-like an addict getting a fix. If you ignore him, keep no contact with all of the players in his anti-female drama, you are doing yourself a good deed. Don't feed him! What is good for you, what are you doing to start a new future, where is the light at the end of the tunnel Ed put you into? You deserve so much better than this crazy, cruel guy.
Aug 30 - 2PM (Reply to #15)
courtneyj
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Carolyn thank you so much

My Story: http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com
Aug 27 - 2PM
Barbara (not verified)
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courtneyj

I read it. I will make a blog for you later today - just email me and let me know what you want it called. You can post it in bits so its easier for people to read. Some other blogs by our members: Clover 18: http://knittingattheguillotine.blogspot.com James: http://personality-disorder.blogspot.com Jane: http://sadlynomore.blogspot.com Mine about Psycho-Boy: http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com Hopefully these will give you some ideas. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B
Aug 27 - 9AM
Nicole
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Hi Courtney

I have just been reading some of your posts. Like everyone here we all have had different experiences but it still sounds like the same partner - just a variation. I couldn't help but notice in your long post that you are a New Yorker - all the city references. I, too, am in the city and thought if you'd ever like to get coffee and talk, just let me know. I'm 7 months out of my situation and still struggle, but when I see others going through the same thing, I feel like I see it more clearly for them and would be glad to just listen. Take care Nicole
Aug 27 - 9AM (Reply to #9)
courtneyj
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nicole

Would you like to meet for coffee on friday?
Aug 27 - 10AM (Reply to #10)
Nicole
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coffee

Hi Courtney! Sure. Let's have coffee! I don't know what your schedule is, but I am pretty much free after 5...but if you have plans, we can meet at lunchtime. Work in midtown, live uptown - anywhere is good EXCEPT I avoid the W. Village like the plague because of him.
Aug 27 - 10AM (Reply to #11)
courtneyj
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nicole

Lets do **********? Where the NHL store used to be. My cell is **********. I will just be flying in to the city that day. Give me your number so I can message you if I am late. My email is Courtneyj_81@yahoo.com. That comes direcetly to my phone too. Looking forward to meeting you. (please exchange ONLY emails in the future... don't want you stalked or targeted)
Aug 27 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
Nicole
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Sounds good!

Sounds good! I will meet you there. My cell is: ********* and my email is: nickanna44@hotmail.com I will most likely be wearing jeans and some sort of jacket. ******....with "I date narcissists tattoed to my forehead!" Hopefully not a permanent tatoo. (please exchange ONLY emails in the future... don't want you stalked or targeted)
Aug 27 - 8AM
dolce (not verified)
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Its so obvious

Isn't it obvious to you? I'm so sorry this has happened but I think if you read enough on this site, you know in your heart and gut what is happening and how you have to defend yourself from more harm. Right?
Aug 27 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
courtneyj
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Dolce

I know that he is still screwing around with her even though he has a new girlfriend with two kids that he is living with. i just wanted to know for sure what happened during our relationship. i want proof that my intuitions were right. i need to evaluate the situation because i came to find out they were always right when it pertained to him. http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com
Aug 27 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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courtneyj

girls I am going to delete your phone numbers now that you each have them - bad idea to put them on a publicly visible board. second - of course he's still with her and you're the bad one. Have you read all the stories here? it's always the same - the other women NEVER listen until its too late. Put him on all the exposure sites: www.playerblock.com www.peepsheet.com www.stoptheact.com www.cheatersexpose.com You'll get blamed but who cares. He can threaten all he likes as long as you are HONEST. I was threatened by Psycho-Boy, many of our members were threatened. Let him call law enforcement. As long as you don't post his address and tell the truth you're fine. Just keep BLOCKING him. be GLAD he's gone. And feel free to send me what you've written and I will put up a nice site about him for you. one2one4victims@gmail.com wish I could meet you guys at starbucks (Im in NYC too) ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B
Aug 27 - 2PM (Reply to #7)
courtneyj
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Barbara please read my other posting

It is a sample of my story. I am going email it to you now. You will have to forgive the grammer. I am usually very good at writing but this was emotionally charged and to edit it would take more time which I dont have. I dont want to re-read it anyway.
Aug 27 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Nicole
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Barbara

Thank you for deleting the numbers. And I'm sorry - I didn't think about it! You, too, are int NYC !? My gosh -why don't you join us for coffee? We should do something at some point - just to meet and put faces to names and stories.
Aug 27 - 2PM (Reply to #6)
courtneyj
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Barbara

Yes thank you for that. I think i got wrapped up in the conversation. Duh!!! thanks again.
Aug 27 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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nicole

I would but I can't leave my kids, they don't start school for another week. Have a great time girls! ah Frappucinos! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B