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#1 Feb 14 - 10PM
Gina
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Sun am txt message

8:15am Sunday am.

Him: So what did you do last night? Thought I would see you at so and so's bday.

Me:

Him: Hmmm, guess that answers it.

Me:

Him: This is nuts. Talk to me dammit. WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING? Are you alone?

Me:

Him: This is ridiculous, I have no times for your games. I love you dammit.

Me:

Him: Why are you doing this?

Me:

Him: Why are you ignoring me babe? I miss you.

Me:

That morning I was lying in my bed, alone, and I read each one as they came thru. And saw the whole narc process unfold. Questioning, rage, anger, lying(that he cares). I would not have been able to understand what he does without the information on this site.
Its never about me.
He could give two shits about me. He only wants to know if im with someone else. I am a thing to him. A possession.

And you know what, I wasnt affected by his texts. I was indifferent to them all. A real change.

Im think Im finally crossing some invisible line, I may cross back with my heart or thinking, but right now, it feels good to not be affected.

G

Feb 15 - 9PM
MandyM
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It's interesting - I always

It's interesting - I always noticed and wondered about the fact that he would call me, leave a message telling me to give him a call, and then call me AGAIN if I didn't respond within half an hour. Or when I went on vacation, and he knew I was with family I never got to see, he refused to leave me alone - constantly calling and texting. Why couldn't he just relax? It wasn't like he jumped on the phone every time *I* called *HIM* - he'd leave me hanging all day, sometimes two. But God forbid I didn't respond to him immediately. I never understood what that was about till I found this site.
Feb 16 - 1AM (Reply to #9)
Journey
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Me Neither

Same with me Mandy, I just thought he was weirdly intense about getting a hold of me when he tried. I remember once when I was on the other line he called 3 times within 5-10 minutes and I thought that was very strange. When I called him back I don't remember it being about anything important, but I do remember him saying he "kind of missed me". Lol! I remember feeling so happy about that. How foolish in retrospect that I'd mistake his fearful need to keep tabs on me as actually caring about me. Journey on...

Journey on...

Feb 16 - 9AM (Reply to #10)
Gina
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Journey

Funny....I always thought it strange my ex would say I miss you rather than I love you. I now interpret this as I miss you and your attention to me. LOL!
Feb 15 - 7AM
Hunter
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Gina

WAHOOOOOOOO! Good job. It does go to show how they are all the same. YUCK!!! Idealk
Feb 15 - 4AM
Scoop
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Ahh love it ! When you know

Ahh love it ! When you know what you are dealing with and how theses guys opperate you can almost get the pop corn and watch it unfold . Heres what transpired between my narc and me when i had to spend the afternoon with him due to work (we wernt alone and i kept it bussiness although he tryed to talk to me on a personal capasity )... ill set the scean it was my job to get some people to phone some other people . Me - could you call so and so Him - i dont know im really busy me - why what are you doing ? Him - well monday i have to do this and tuesday i have to do this etc me - silence him - i guess i could do it on tuesday Me good . Now to a lay person this would just be a run of the mill conversation , but for one i know he isnt busy and for two notice how his responces where designed to draw out energy and when i didnt give him any he said he would do it .Its a subtle little dance and easily missed if youre not looking . xx
Feb 15 - 12AM
Journey
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So much from one 'session'

"And saw the whole narc process unfold", no kidding! Glad you are feeling some indifference at last. I know of the line you speak, I have been crossing it more frequently myself. It's remaining on the other side of that line that I find so hard still to do :) Journey on...

Journey on...

Feb 14 - 11PM
strongerthanever
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As I was reading down in the

As I was reading down in the one-sided conversation, I was giggling. That was awesome! Good job!
Feb 14 - 11PM (Reply to #2)
Gina
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Strong

Thanks, it felt good that his words did not hold an emotional power over me! I must add....in case anyone is new one here....this is not NC. Reading his texts is contact. And not recommended! NC is the way to go.
Feb 15 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
spinning
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Gina, this is outstanding

and reflects the thoughtful work you've done to get away from the chaos of being involved with a disordered one. I am glad you posted, even if reading is breaking NC. This is a very inspiring post. Thank you so much... Sincerely (committed to stopping) spinning

spinning

Feb 15 - 12AM (Reply to #3)
narcissizednomore
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Gina

You did well. Funny how it feels a little revengeful to have them try to make contact and they get no response, right? My exN is still friends with my husband and he dangles carrots all the time to make himself look good and in the hopes it will get back to me and I'll hear about it. So in a way, I'm in the same boat. Allowing him to have contact with my husband is still contact. In a way, it just helps to affirm how awful they are and we seem to need continuous reminders don't we? I look forward to the day when he self-destructs and I don't have to be the bearer of bad news to anyone.

narcissizednomore