Topic of the week/Do the actions match the words?
Topic of the week/Do the actions match the words?
Last week we started a topic of the week for discussion. I think one of the biggest red flags of these PD's is that their actions do not match their words. My PD was telling me that I was the love of his life, the girl of his dreams, the one he will never leave, cheat on, and wants to marry, that he wants to help me, and give me his heart and soul, and grow together, blah blah blah!!! Yet his actions were to be cheap, petty, call me names, lie to me, steal from me, ect... You know the drill. The actions did not even come close to the words in my case. Often there is less of a gap, however, there is still a sense that something is not adding up.
I have adopted a new method of dealing with others over these past months. NOW I step back: Watch, listen, and continue to observe peoples action, words, and behaviors and see if they line up. I am amazed at how often they do not. This has been a life changing lesson for me. I used to take people more at face value and at their word. NOt anymore and I feel more empowered now. What are your thoughts and experiences with this? What are you doing to avoid these pitfalls moving forward? How can you spot the redflags?
Goldie
The Narc Manual
Thanks Goldie, you and the
Lol, me too
Excellent Post Goldie, this
foolednolonger
No
Incognito!!!!!!!
Yes the Kings of cheapness
The ring.
wow. i didn't know this was
Cherryblossom
Yes
Michele, VERY well said.
Journey on...
The "toys on the shelf"
Oh, God, the silent periods
Yep
Mandy and IB
Silent treatment
spinning
Exactly. He insinuates
Mandy & Ally
Incognito
And I'll say it again for intuition
Yeah Michele115
victimnomore
I was just reading this post
Truly broken Isn't it
victimnomore
I couldn't find the damn words!
Action Never
victimnomore
Yes, so true
Oh that reminds me...
NO the actions do not match the words