The Narcissist and Intimacy
The Narcissist and Intimacy
I have recently realized that I married a narcissist. His narcissistic tendencies were not apparent at first - but after 2 years of marriage I am positive that this is my current situation.
I was listening to the "Narcissist and Intimacy" episode and a lot of what was said struck a chord. His sarcasm and hurtful words outside of the bedroom as well as his actions in bed have made me increasingly uncomfortable with having sex with him.
I am completely uncomfortable with some of the things he asks me to do in bed, how there's no foreplay, how there's no intimacy or emotional connection during sex, how he tells me what to say while we're having sex (e.g. "Tell me your my whore), and how he has never once asked me what feels good. Essentially, my inability to be turned on by him at this stage has made sex uncomfortable and physically painful. We haven't had sex in a year. I have an appointment with a pain specialist in a couple of days to "diagnose" the issue, but I think it's that sex is so forced and unpleasant that my body is resisting.
My husband is my first and only sexual partner, so honestly I have nothing else to compare this to. I have no idea if what I'm saying sounds crazy. If he has the right to be angry with me, making comments like, "I never thought I'd be in a sexless marriage", or "According to the bible women are not supposed to withold sex from men." Honestly I'm not doing any of this on purpose. I just don't feel loved, I feel no emotional connection, and surely no intimacy. How can I be turned on and have sex with someone who hurts me so often? And is he being mean, hurtful and sarcastic because we aren't having sex?
Any insight you can provide would be very much appreciated.
You don't need an appt with a
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