10 year old & had to call police on ex n

Last night I went across the street to drop off my refrigerator pickles my 10 year old and I made the other night to my friends house and to bring my son home. My son was playing with their girls.

My ex N was there (he been drinking for a few hrs with our guy friend). I chatted a few mins with my girl friend. Ex N was making rude comments, etc. I got up to leave with our son and ex N followed me to end of their driveway. Asked if I wanted to have him take his dogs home as I am taking our son to a car show Saturday. I watched his dogs with my dogs on Friday. (if our sitter doesn't watch our son he drops them off-prior to divorce they were my dogs too (and I have my 2 dogs). He said he would be across the street and he could let the dogs out, I walked back up to my friends and asked if she would let my dogs out Saturday (she has my key) and she said yes. Walked back to end of driveway and told my son to let''s go. Ex n said what you don't trust me to go into my house and I knew he would start so I said it was handled. I told my ex there were boundaries and he didn't need to be in my house.

I continued to ask our son to let's go and ex n was hugging him and wouldn't let him go until I would talk to him. By this time, our friends had shut off light and went into the house. He started yelling at me in front of our son (he's 10), I calmly repeated that it was in appropriate to yell and call me names in front of our son, he said that I was a bitch, that I was trying to take our son away from him by taking him to another therapist and he wasn't letting that happen, that our son was afraid of me, that our son wants to live with him and that I don't do anything with our son. He told me to go ahead and call the cops, I got out my phone and our son started to cry and said no mom they will take him to jail.

Finally was able to get our son to walk with me across the street. Ex n followed me there in his vehicle and my son brought the dogs out for my ex N to take home. Ex n got out of his vehicle and continued his rage. Said I was 50 and acting like I was 20 and I was going out with my ex #1 (he's a cop and the father of my 2 adult son). Told him I didn't know what he was talking about and tried to get our son to go into the house and I would follow. Ex N kept telling our son he wanted to hug him and wouldn't let him in the house unless I agreed to talk to him.

I told ex N (still calm but starting to shake) that this was not the time for this. He continued to yell and said that I wouldn't even tell him why we were divorcing (uhhh yes I did, anger and rage, jealously, controlling, intimating, bully, mean, etc to myself and our son) and that I was a cold hearted bitch. That I was trying to take our son away by having him go to a different therapist without him knowing. That in 3 years (when our son is 13 yrs old) our son will want to go live with him (during divorce and a child is 13 yrs in Michigan the judge will ask the child what his preference is-our divorce was final in March and we have joint custody but I have majority). Said our son doesn't want to live with me and he is afraid of me. I am the calm level headed one. Everyone tells me what a great mom and how nice and calm I am. He said I was mean to our son. I told him repeately that he needs to stop and this was wrong to yell in front of our son. I did say that I wasn't mean and I discipline our son (never hit or scream). He said our son calls him and tells him (ex n told our son to tell me what goes on and his house but wants to know what goes on at my house)Asking our son to pick up after himself, do his chores, etc. Ex N still was going on (his rages last about 30-45 mins), said he was glad he got child support from me (Michigan does a calculation period) $50 a week (I make alot more than he does), I also pay our son's health, dental and vision, sitter etc. Our son is with me more like 85% of time because I work from home during the summer. He said that our son is his life and that I spend alot of time away from home. I told him on his days, I am free to do what I want (mind you I am not even dating) and it's not of his business what I do. I told him I don't interupt his time with our son and he shouldn't with my time. He always calls or texts him to come across the street. (I am in process of buying house to move a bit further away)

I finally was able to get our son into the house (course he is crying still) Ex was trying to get into house and I called 911 Told 911 a domestic in house. Our son got his phone and was trying to get back outside to his dad. Ex N hurried into his vehicle and took off to his place. I called my friend across the street, she came over and sat with us on the porch (at 10pm) and the police came. Wow they know about narcissistic men. Told them what happened, they have his name and where he lives (less than a mile ways) told me too that I can start meeting ex n for exchange with son at police dept (less than a mile away). Explained to our son that while mom and dad may not see eye to eye, he needs to spend his time with the parent whose time it is (no running over across the street on my days because his dad texts or calls him) . Because our son is finally getting some kind of attention from his dad, I am the enemy for divorcing his dad. His dad is lying and manipulating him and me.

Cops said they would drive by the ex n to make sure he was still there (asked if he had been drinking and said yes, asked if he drinks with our son and drives and said yes, when he is done with the friends across the street (always drinks over there) drives with our son to his place on his days. I told the cops he was narcissistic. Told them I was in the process of buying a house to get out of his line of reach. Told them he coaches our son when I take him to therapist (tells him if he says anything bad about him , they will take him away from his dad and that his dad loves him and he is everything to his dad, my son gobbles this up as ex n didn't pay to much attention to him before)

We finally got into the house. Got settled. Saw that our son had texted his dad that the police wouldn't be taking him to jail. Ex n texted our son several times that he loved him and asked what was said about him and told him he would talk to him tomorrow and told him repeatedly that he loved him. I saw a text from ex n this am that said he hoped I was happy (text sent last night after he was home) that our son hates being with me and I just proved him right, just ask him.

OMG