..and another email

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#1 Dec 22 - 2PM
MOORE
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..and another email

Just got back and here is another reply - it is soo easy to believe and want to believe they are NOT narcassistic and that it is all me - HELP - his 2nd response to my 'ephiphany' email which I should not have sent.
I dont have to explain again to you guys but he was the one yelling at me and going crazy on his birthday as I had sent a text to his best friend letting his friend know that it was his birthday.
There are so many things I want to send back and reply to, ref
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BTW in case you wanted to know. Yes, the email bothered me. Maybe you can sleep better now.

I have to say.. sure doesn't sound like love to me. Sounds like you were trying to fix me, tolerate me etc. So, sounds like you should be glad to be rid of me. I won't get into details on what really happened in some of the situations you point out below, or highlight what I believe are your issues because I have found you don't listen and think it has to do with me or anyone else besides you so it will be worthless information to you. And unlike you, I don't have a "narcissistic" need to hurt you or control you.

I do however want to make a statement to your therapist if that is who shared the pale of water story with you. (if it was a friend over drinks disregard) However if it was a therapist or psychologist... then tell them this "Get some new material! They have used that line too many times and reveled at the response from their clients so much that they have lost their way in truly helping their patients. They need to go back to studying and seeing other therapists to help get them back on the track of helping the people that come to them rather than attempt to get their satisfaction through having one of their patients find something they said clever. They can start to explore their own self esteem issues. They should take better pride in their work" Now... if it was just a friend over drinks... tell her...well... cool analogy.

And to clarify.. I am no "trophy" and I am no "devil" as you point out below. I am just a man. However, I have thoughts and feelings of my own that don't seem to line up to well with yours. I am not good with people that avoid. I don't like people to try to put their problems on someone else. I don't like to be manipulated. I also don't like someone yelling and cussing at me while trying to imply it is somehow justified (especially on my birthday). That is why I asked you to leave and that is why I couldn't see any cause in opening any of the gifts. I didn't hear from you.. until this message below.. so there was really no need to call you.

Partially sarcastic and partially sincere.... I am glad you had your epiphany.

Dec 22 - 5PM
tynk3377
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WOW MOORE

my N told me how wrong my T was too. Arent they just so brilliant these little wanna be annalists.. NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC *HUGGS*
Dec 22 - 3PM
Journey
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Manipulation

His response is just more of it. His lines: "I am not good with people that avoid. I don't like people to try to put their problems on someone else. I don't like to be manipulated. I also don't like someone yelling and cussing at me while trying to imply it is somehow justified" Everything he is saying here is a projection of himself. HE is the one who is blaming others, HE is the one manipulating, HE is the one bad mouthing and HE is the one implying he's been justified in treating you badly. Don't doubt yourself, I know it's hard and I have doubted myself far too much in my experience too. I am trying not to do that, but his email reeks of toxicity. Oh, and his critique of your 'therapists' line about the bucket? (I know it was actually your friend) - that is so classic, if you weren't in so much pain and confusion, I would have found that laughable. As it is though, I find that evil, as he is trying to instill in you a distrust for your therapist - someone who would be trying to help you and whom you need to give trust to. Undermining all the way. IT IS NOT ALL YOU! Don't let his manipulative 'caring' create doubt in your perspective of his inability to really do so. Journey on...

Journey on...

Dec 22 - 2PM
Scoop
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Oh my good God ! I have a

Oh my good God ! I have a narc alert here they is something in my stomach that makes me want to rech when i read the emails from the narc , it is a twisted , sick feeling like you have when you have an inner ear infection , i feel a bit dizzy . The arogence is off the scale .."im just a man " oh my vomit bucket please ! Whilst i know that rage you feel reading his disordered ,delousional bollocks please dont reply to this , it dosent warrent a reply , my cockney grandmother would say "chin up girl and walk away " and if you really think about it that is all you can do , i mean you could reply and he would send you something equaly retarded and the cycle continues untill you are spitting feathers , save youre self the emotional strain as you will need it when you go nc , rant away on here , call him all the names under the sun , punch a pillow (my favorite is to stab a pillow with a pen saying "die you fu*cker DIE" I wish you a peaceful evening and rest assured it is HIM not YOU sweetie ... What a pillock this twat is .. in fact give me his email address ill reply to it ! lol ... Big Love to you , save the email as it will help in youre recovory in the months to come ... xx
Dec 22 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
Journey
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I should try that!

"my favorite is to stab a pillow with a pen saying "die you fu*cker DIE" Sounds like good therapy for anger release. I might have to try that one - lol! Journey on...

Journey on...

Dec 22 - 2PM
Hunter
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Hahaha

Moore, Thanks for a good laugh. This guy is textbook. See how he turned it all around?it's all your fault,They will never admit wrong. It's also pissing him off that you are not responding. Thrive off of that. Do Not answer. They respond and write from the same script. This post will help so many here, hopefully you too. His true colors shine. Can you say NPD? Move forward click and delete. Idealk
Dec 22 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
Deidre99
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he also admits that he is

he also admits that he is not good with ''people who avoid.'' SOOOO ....AVOID THEN! :D I'm diabolical sometimes. hee hee seriously? NC!!!! Hugs for you moore...stay strong.
Dec 22 - 2PM
Deidre99
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Gosh...they are all so alike

Gosh...they are all so alike in the tone. Very demeaning, condescending tone here, Moore. I say NC! LOL Don't reply. Don't keep reading it. The opening line alone...''your email bothered me...maybe you can sleep better now.'' Is chilling, to me. As though he senses you are not sleeping well? And his line ''unlike you...I don't have a narcissistic need to control...'' lol Unlike YOU? I think this is why everyone here says...NC. Because it just opens up the wound that was just starting to heal. Are you broken up with this man? Or did the break up just happen?
Dec 22 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
MOORE
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We broke up 2 weeks ago, and

We broke up 2 weeks ago, and I was doing fantastic NC - I know we will never be together again. It was Anne ephiphany letter that just initially made me write to him and not send, and then I sent. I promise you all there will be no NC - I could write a book in reply, but am not doing it. Thanks girls. 2011 is about working on me, looking for red flags, and enjoying the simple things. Am devouring Narcassistic Lovers write now, and literally have highlighted anything relevant that he did to me - suffice to say, my book is bright yellow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Looking forward to tonight doing a trial run on the turkey fryer with my sis. xoxox
Dec 22 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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Can you put the narc in the

Can you put the narc in the fryer instead? I'm still thinking about his response. His words are like deja vous. I'm so mad at him for you. If you really understand what he is ,his words won't hurt you. Oxox idealk