Any advice???

That's a totally natural reaction and worry/thought. I would say try to associate the thoughts with thoughts of how soon enough, she'll be introduced to the monster he really is, and then she'll be running for the hills too. The sex isn't worth it. That was the hardest part for me to let go of, it was the one good part of our "relationship" even though he never actually satisfied me! The realization that I never trusted him and it was all fake makes me have faith that something real is out there, and real will be better. Also, remember that NONE of the OWs are ACTUALLY any "more" special than any of us were!

Similar problem..... actually saw my x-Narc interacting with the women that he cheated on me with. She is definitely a Narc as well and Married too. I discovered later after witnessing them together that she wanted my Narc boyfriend even before I was in the picture but he kept their secret "friendship" from me ... then I saw them. She was condescending to me. Flirting and touching his leg sitting beside him and before I knew it - my head was spinning. But this one image is consuming me. Picture This: He asked me to hold a door open while he walks his bicycle through. Then looks forward - sees her - calls her name while continuing toward her - bends down and gently kisses her cheek - then they walked shoulder to shoulder onward while he pulls his bike with the free hand (the free hand that could have held the door) I was left. I saw. He didn't care that I saw. I saw and can't get it out of my head. She mattered more; I mattered less. I saw. I cannot get this out of my head. This vision haunts me. He later deny and got defensive saying that, she is married, and saying, he doesn't like blonds, and they're "just friends" He came crying back with love letters, apologies, promises, and I don't know why. Do they need that much supply? why can't I get this upsetting image out of my head ????

He will eventually have with his new shiny toy. So I think about how she never had oral sex this good - and in about 4 months, never will again.

Picture yourself instead with someone else... Works better if you are having some sort of bizarro non-sexual affair (not extra-martial...) with someone you work with that always smells soooooo damn good and who thinks you are totally hot. I'm just sayin' ;)

The ex-Psych prof fessed up to his masturbation habit with me, and since I (somehow) escaped from having sex with him... he made it waaay too easy. It's hard (so to speak) to be envious&desirous of a guy who wa*ks off to "War and Peace." Especially with passages like this- Slightly snorting&grunting, he (Napoleon) presented now his back and now his plump hairy chest to the brush with which his valet was rubbing him down. Another valet, with his finger over the mouth of a bottle, was sprinkling eau de cologne on the Emperor's pampered body with an expression which seemed to say he and he alone knew where&how much eau de cologne should be sprinkled. Napoleon's short hair was wet&matted on the forehead, but his face, though puffy&yellow, expressed physical satisfaction. 'Go on, harder, go on!'he muttered to the valet who was rubbing him, slightly twitching&grunting. -War and Peace,Book 3, Part 2,Chapter 26 Masturbating to Tolstoy's "War and Peace." How lust-inducing. NOT.

I think about this too a little as exN already has a new supply bitch....BUT...this is what I think about (pardon for crudeness) 1) Him masturbating while she does whatever because he is focused on himself. 2) Him doing the same fucking techniques over and over and over and over and over and over again....Fun. 3) She helping him masturbate and climax because he can never finish inside her. 4) And later she will find out....the porn habits that eventually lead to him masturbaating only....while she discovers his inept lover traits. Finally, his total and complete lack of intimacy....that is sad, a disappointment and not going to get better. No need to feel bad, sad or what I'm missing.

The times I had that issue crop up, I'd just picture him in bed with his new flame...and imagine her thinking the same exact shit I was during sex with him...."WTF! You're done alREADY?!:!"