BadaBing - the importance of honesty
BadaBing - the importance of honesty
Over the past few days, BB has posted a great deal about the latest chapter in her life. She's detailed the events with heartbreaking honesty, despite full knowledge of the candid reaction she was likely to get from fellow members of the board. I am amazed at her ability to listen and consider what others have said without becoming more defensive. That takes grace and humility. I give her a lot of credit for it.
I must passionately disagree that her latest post (which seems to have been removed) belongs in a PM or a journal. In my mind, it belonged right here. It was one of the most straightforward accounts of what it feels like to be in an abusive relationship that I have ever read. Her words are laced with confusion, doubt and emotional turmoil. I don't read that as her trying to get anyone to endorse or debate her decisions; she is simply giving her account from the throes of the struggle.
I'm not trying to debate what should or shouldn't be on this forum. It's not my forum, so I will defer to the moderators and respect their decisions to remove or edit posts as they see fit. But I hope those who have felt "triggered" by this story consider that the reason may be how raw and honest BB has been with us. It breaks my heart, but as much as we might all want to yank her off the ride, it is not our place to do so. This is a decision she must make for herself, as it was for us all. God bless my brother for what I put him through when I was where she is.
I am as concerned about BB as all of you, believe me. I understand the reaction to her recent round of posts. But, imagine what it must feel like to stand in her shoes today. Remember how it felt to feel alone, criticized, and confused. Our being here to listen and offer perspective as she works through this does not imply that we agree with her decision. It simply means that those of us who are farther down the path are in the position to remind her of what she already knows. And she knows something isn't right.
BB, your honesty is part of what makes you so beloved on this board. So many of us can relate to you and so many of us care about you. If you are being as honest with yourself as you are with us, you know how serious this situation is. Please try to see it for what it is, rather that what you wish it were.
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I guess I see it differently,
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