Burton720's Story
Burton720's Story
PREGNANT & ABANDONED
Thank you for this website. I am ten weeks pregnant by a Narcissist, "N". We dated on and off for four years. His behavior patterns are classic NPD. I ended it many times but took him back. I lost my dog and then my father within 12 months. It was a difficult year.
N has a son from a previous marriage who he has not made any effort to see in over six years. He pays child support but has made no effort regarding visitation. Yet, he insists on all sorts of recognition on Father's day. This has always confused me.
He essentially kept me in a relationship I had walked away from many times by leading me to believe he wanted to have children which I wanted.
Although this pregnancy wasn't planned, "N" had said, "if it happens it happens". When it did, he turned his back on me before I could even process that I was pregnant. He told me that all his talk of having children was with someone else, some future wife and future life. Although, he didn't share any of this with me until after I became pregnant.
I am 38 years old and had fertility concerns. Abortion was not an option and this will be my first child. N became hostile and tried to intimidate me into terming this pregnancy. The more malicious he become, the more my resolve grew to keep my child.
N has said that he wants nothing to do with me or this child and insists that this situation is "nothing of his doing". He acts as if I impregnated myself and am sure he has told all his friends that I deceived him which is 100% untrue.
I finally got this person out of my life after many failed attempts but now I am going through a pregnancy alone and looking at being a single mom. I plan on taking him to court immediately for child support which will infuriate him. This is what he deserves. I know he has made many efforts to shield money from his ex-wife and anticipate the same treatment. He is actually successful and has money but made it very clear that he will protect it. He does not even care about his own children.
I need to find a way to protect myself, my child and get over this anger. I'm shell shocked. Does anyone have any advice? Please help...
M
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Congratulations On Your Pregnancy
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Burton
New heading pregnant and abandoned yeeehaaa!
I'm so excited for you
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I am so happy for you!
Firstly, congratulations,
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