a calm feeling after 20 days
a calm feeling after 20 days
When I was finally ready for NC, I had had enough. I had already been on this site long enough to have a pretty good awareness of the N tactics so when I had one last face-to-face encounter with the exN (20 days ago), it was like finally being able to understand a foreign language when he started his usual hateful, blaming rant. I was able to remain cool and simply walk away in peace.
It hasn't been easy, but it certainly hasn't been as painfully difficult with the panic attacks, sadness, anxiety to call him or drive by his house (was going to be our house as a family), etc. I sit here tonight with my children with a feeling of peace and calm that I used to know years ago. Contentment - the very best feeling in the world.
I regret that the life I thought I was moving toward didn't happen - but it didn't. It's not my fault. I gave as much as a person can give and in every way. Don't know what the future holds but I know what it won't hold anymore. It is such a powerful feeling to take that control back. I think this might be the first time in years that I really feel in control again.
I'm not completely back to "normal" again but I want to thank everyone on this forum for their stories and support. You are the reason I've gotten to this checkpoint. Thank you.
So glad to read this Terri :)
So Happy For You!
Terri
YAAA!!!!
~~~ Keep Learning & Keep Healing ~~~
~~~~~ The best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you don't give them.
Well its day 14 for me and I
Terri
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Terri
This is really good Terri