Can't believe I was only in it for 4 months until his FATHER TOLD ME about his Diagnosis...

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#1 May 15 - 6PM
Kiwi2005
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Can't believe I was only in it for 4 months until his FATHER TOLD ME about his Diagnosis...

Hi Everyone!!!
First and foremost... Thank you Lisa for writing the books and Everyone else for sharing your experiences.

I met a guy after being single for 2 years... he was soo charming and basically talked me into a relationship which lasted 2 months and 2 months of me trying to get out (this was after his father told me about his diagnosis of narcissism by several psychologists) How nice right?

Anyways I'm thankful and lucky that when he told me I love you, I didn't always feel he meant it as I learned he NEVER did :) its just amazing to me how only 4 months of this and I still have difficulties some days, even started feeling crayz! It went to the point where he'd change his number since I'm "psycho" so I wouldn't contact him but then he'd call me days later ! Ridiculous!

I was a Psychology minor in college but even after his dad told me I was still in denial- UNTIL I FOUND YOU GUYS!!!

Questions about your experiences:

* Was anyone with a Narc who had issues with the Law? Drugs? Other psychological issues?
* There are days where I am tempted to text and I have... after telling him NOT to contact me... but now the contact has stopped (and I'm ok with it) not sure if he knows I know about his Narcissism or the other NS?

Thanks for the input and sharing your views! Much luv xoxo!

May 15 - 7PM
michele115 (not verified)
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I'm happy to hear

You were at least told - that saved you from months and/or years of damage! Welcome abroad. The narc I was involved with has a past history of substance abuse...but he was also a pathological liar so he may have had all the other issues you asked about as well. I'll never know and don't care to know as he's in my past but there are all kinds of issues that surround the pathology. Hugs!
May 16 - 7AM (Reply to #9)
wacaet
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exactly what michele said

exactly what michele said applies to mine as well.
May 16 - 7AM (Reply to #8)
Kiwi2005
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Luckily I was told...

I was actually starting to think I was the one who was crazy, when I started noticing patterns with this guy... Yay! Thank you! So glad to be here :) Ohh how coincidental, this one too is a pathological liar, that was my first instinct but the NPD clarified so much for me! Was your Narc a recovered addict? This one is currently in classes (has skipped more than enough). Interesting.
May 15 - 6PM
Hunter
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Most of these guys are simply

Most of these guys are simply trouble. They are troubled souls. He has brainwashed you, That's why you still want him. You miss the man with the mask on, we all do and that's why we are here. YOu must try to understand the person you are dealing with is ill, he has a personality disorder. Its like have cancer or diabetes. However this is a cancer with no cure. To move forward you need to our your loss, and find yourself. NCNCNCNCNC! Hunter
May 16 - 8AM (Reply to #5)
heritage
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hunter

felt good to read what you wrote this am because i spent sunday missing the masked man and my heart was hurting all day. but then i flash to the worst abuse and inhumane treatment and i am filled with hatred. charmed mew for 4 fn years, screwed my head up. now he's back to charming his old gf. i have been spending a lot of my time being alone and after 3 months i am just starting to deprogram. my head hasn't been the same. it really is psychological abuse.
May 16 - 8AM (Reply to #6)
Hunter
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Dent

I'm still hurt, but you what? Staying with an abuser hurts more! Plus if you know what you're dealing with and continue to go back for more,what does that say about our character? "stupid is as stupid does" Life sucks sometimes this happens to be one of the suckie things we must over come! Hunter
May 15 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
Kiwi2005
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Thanks Hunter!!! I know-

Thanks Hunter!!! I know- believe me, I have learned so much now about NPD if he ever tried speaking to me again... ooo gosh I'd read straight through him! I probably shouldn't mention that the whole family, which I was closely involved in may all be underlying narcs... And you're so right we all miss the image he created and his image was quite amazing... until I found out about him actually being diagnosed, along with the drug issues, and GOD I'm blessed to be out of it now :) Thank you!!!
May 15 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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All in the Family,HUH?

All in the Family,HUH? Well.. if you sleep with dogs that have flees….. Hunter
May 16 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
Kiwi2005
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Dogs & Flees...

LOL! This made my morning- I'm pretty sure if I threw myself at the dad he would have accepted... VERY strange family (to say the least)!