Characteristics of a Sociopath

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#1 Nov 15 - 3AM
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Characteristics of a Sociopath

# Jekyll & Hyde personality
# Always charming and beguilingly plausible, especially to those who are capable of protecting or enhancing the sociopath’s position
# Excels at deception (this must never be underestimated, but always is)
# Excels at evasion of accountability
# Is extremely and successfully manipulative of people’s perceptions and emotions (eg guilt and anger)
# Silver-tongued, has an extreme verbal facility and can outwit anybody (including lawyers, police & therapists) in verbal conflict
# Is adept at offering weak and inadequate people the positions of power, control, security, influence or respect that they crave but who lack the necessary competencies to achieve – such people are unaware that their consequent dependence on the sociopath makes them permanent manipulatees, pawns and expendable agents of harassment
# Identifies those essential to the sociopath’s survival and manipulates their perceptions of them by making them feel special and thus obligated to reciprocate with support and protection
# Manipulates others into making fools of themselves in situations where they cannot back down or from which they cannot withdraw – these people become increasingly susceptible to further manipulation and are then trapped as pawns in the sociopath’s game
# Is likely to be surrounded by people who, having been subjected to control, manipulation and punishment by the sociopath, look wretched and who start to exhibit behaviour best described as disordered, dysfunctional, sullen, aggressive, defensive, hostile, retaliatory, counterproductive or cult-like and for whom disbelief, disavowal and denial are instinctive responses
# Creates an environment where levels of denial are so great that those involved are oblivious of the foolishness and self-evident absurdity of their denials when presented with the facts, with the result that non-involved observers are led to question whether such levels of denial merit psychiatric intervention
# Is contemptuous of disrepute to their organisation and of collateral damage and of the destructive consequences for all direct and indirect parties
# Is always surrounded by and leaves behind a trail of dysfunctional organisations, destroyed businesses, ruined careers, stress breakdowns and unexplained suicides despite a trail of devastation to individuals, organisations, families and communities. The actions of a socialised psychopath may go undetected or unrecognised for years
# A history of conducting frivolous, vexatious and malicious legal actions, especially (but not exclusively) against anyone who can recognise the sociopath for what he is
# Only after the sociopath is exposed and relieved of position, or they move on, can the full depth of their destructive behaviour be fathomed and the consequences calculated
# Is skilled at identifying, undermining, discrediting, neutralising and destroying anyone who can see through the sociopath’s mask of sanity at all times
# Restricts the actions and rights of others (especially those holding the sociopath accountable) whilst aggressively protecting his or her right to do anything without being hampered by social norms or legal requirements
# Pursues endless vindictive vendettas against anyone perceived as a threat or who attempts, knowingly or unknowingly, to identify or reveal or expose the sociopath, or who makes efforts to hold the sociopath accountable
# Is adept at appropriating rules, regulations, procedures and law to manipulate, control and punish accusers regardless of relevance, logic, facts or consequences persists in and pursues vindictive vendettas using self-evidently false evidence or information, even after this is brought to the attention of the sociopath will often manipulate minor bullies of the Wannabe type (who on their own might or would not merit the label ’serial bully’) into acting as agents of harassment and as unwitting or unwilling conductors/ proxies of vendettas
# Is adept at placing people in situations where the sociopath can tap into each person’s instinctive urge to retaliate in order to use them as his or her instruments or agents of harassment
# Gains gratification from provoking others into engaging in adversarial conflict
# Once conflict has been initiated, the sociopath gains increased gratification by exploiting human beings’ instinctive need to retaliate – this is achieved by encouraging and escalating peoples’ adversarial conflicts into mutually assured destruction, revels in the gratification gained from seeing or causing other people’s distress
# When faced with accountability or unwelcome attention which might lead to others discerning the sociopath’s true nature, responds with repeated and escalating attempts to control, manipulate and punish
# Is adept at reflecting all accusations and attempts at accountability back onto their accusers
# Is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information about the sociopath (eg ‘keeping victims apart’ so there is comparison or sharing of activities or statements made by the sociopath)
# Has no limits on his or her vindictiveness
# The need to control, manipulate and punish develops into an obsession with many of the hallmarks of an addiction
# Is skilled at mimicry and can plausibly and spontaneously regurgitate all the latest management jargon
# Exhibits minimal professional skill level and competency
# Exploits his or her intelligence to excel at talentless mediocrity
# Is always identifying the behaviours and strategies to which other people respond with the desired effect
# Is able to anticipate and credibly say what people want to hear
# Is easily able to win people over before betraying them or deceiving them or ripping them off
# Easily manipulates and bewitches a vulnerable or emotionally needy person to be their spokesperson or agent of aggression
# Exploits anyone who has a vulnerability
# Is pushy and extremely persuasive
# Is sexually inadequate and sexually abusive (and often sexually addicted)
# Is likely to protect anyone accused of or suspected of sexually abusive activity, and will frustrate or obstruct investigations into that person
# May be associating with, or actively involved in, sexually abusive activity
# Has no emotions, no emotional processing capability and no ability to understand other’s emotions
# Is incapable of understanding, initiating or sustaining intimacy
# The male sociopath has often convinced a string of women to feel they are in love with him and despite being treated abominably they blindly continue to be loyal to him and minister willingly to his every demand
# May start projects or relationships with apparent enthusiasm and energy but quickly loses interest
# Frequently takes unnecessary and uncalculated risks but takes no account of consequences
# Is reckless and untrustworthy with money
# Is likely to have committed or be committing criminal or near-criminal offences, eg fraud, deception
# Is likely to have committed or be committing breaches of harassment and discrimination law, employment law, etc disregards rules, regulations, Health and Safety requirements, professional standards, codes of conduct and legal requirements, etc
# Cannot comprehend the deeper semantic meaning of language and is thus unable to understand or appreciate metaphor, hyperbole, irony, satire etc – while trumpeting they are “good at” same (these elicit either zero response or a hostile response)
# Likes, seeks, enjoys and relies on procedure, ritual and ritualistic practices through arrogant overconfidence takes increasingly risky chances and eventually overplays their hand or makes a mistake which leads to the sociopath revealing him or herself
# Exhibits parasitical behaviour, takes everything and gives nothing grabs headline credit for minimal, flukey or other peoples’ success whilst surviving off the backs of manipulatees who are exclusively blamed for all failures
# Rarely blinks, may have stary scary eyes that cut right through you, or may avoid eye contact completely
# Is callous, cold and calculating
# Is devious, clever and cunning
# Is ruthless in the extreme regards people as objects and playthings to be discarded when surplus to requirements
# Displays zero empathy completely without conscience, remorse and guilt
# Malicious and evil

http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com/2007/11/22/characteristics-of-a-s...

Remember - ALL Socio/Psychopaths are ALSO Narcissists
NOT all Narcissists are Socio/Psychopaths
...the spectrum only runs one way!

Feb 28 - 2PM
angelgal
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The BLINK issue, OMG!

OMG, I always thought there was something behind his strange eyes! Its sooo crazy and interesting to read that one of the Sociopath's characteristics is that they don't blink! Fireguy always had this same straight faced stare/look and rarely ever blinked! He had these beaty little dark eyes...that were sometimes sexy but mostly scary! During sex, his eyes would get REALLY REALLY big, but he never would BLINK!! SCARY and CREEPY to read this info!! He said during sex, he was in a different mindset! WEIRDO!! I told him that he seemed like another person during sex and he said he has been told this before! I'm sure he has!! The effin creep that he is! This is just NOT normal, in my book! He was definitely Jekyl and Hyde like in the bedroom, again, did not seem normal to me and I would always think this in the back of my mind! I was always so bothered by the way he would look so blank all the time, it was almost like there was really nothing inside, no emotion or anything, and apparently it was true!
Feb 28 - 8AM
rache
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this is the

old reptile i married and divorced three months later for his lies,deceptions,cheating!He married me for a reason and it wasn't love-i believe i was to be the MEAL TICKET for him and his ex wife #3----Yeah,i believe those two are a modern day Bonnie and Clyde or a ma Baker clan as one of her sons-38 is involved too-he had his phone # in phone and even said he should be in prison! Claimed he was a felon,and,that he wasnt involved in anything like this until he got involved with her-HER!well,if,it happened 10 years before we were married and they were only married 18 months-why the concern?PSYCHOPATH!!!!
Feb 28 - 4AM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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THEY NEVER BLINK!!

psychonarc met every qualification....in technicolor......the seldom blinking thing.....that one hits home....he was like a reptile....he never blinked....i'd noticed that early on...in him and his mommydearest....they could both go for what seemed like HOURS without blinking........it still makes me shudder......it's something i look for in people now...to see if they blink........ and anyone who knows my story knows how destructive he is....how vindictive... and that he's a world class parasite....... My blog
Feb 28 - 8AM (Reply to #10)
rache
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same here

i did not understand it until now.He would brag about being able to stare people down.......
Feb 28 - 8AM (Reply to #11)
itreallyisabouthim
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I didn't see the "rarely

I didn't see the "rarely blinks" thing the first time I read this. Mine did not either, come to think of it. He just stared. He had this stare with his eyelids sort of at half mast. He only turned it on a lot during the beginning of our relationship. I used to think it was sexy and alluring. Now it makes me queasy.
Feb 27 - 11PM
Barbara (not verified)
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Characteristics of a Sociopath

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Nov 15 - 6PM
Amazed
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Barbara, this describes the man of my dealings

Barabara, the man of my dealings exhibits all,,ALL of these traits. Even the eyes,,we would be out, talking, and he would CONSTANTLY look at my lips while talking. He would never look me in the eyes. I would ask him "what is up with that, I feel so disconnected to you, so distant, like you are somewhere else, why don't you look me in the eyes honey?" And he would tell me "because I understand what you are saying better when I look at your lips when you talk, I do this to everyone." Why do they do this Barbara?
Nov 15 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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Amazed... STAY OUT OF THEIR HEAD

Brain studies are showing they lack gray matter in some areas of their brains and even lack the neurochemicals to feel emotion, empathy and so on. Additionally anterior regions of their brain are not functioning properly - THERE IS NO CURE, MEDICATION OR ANYTHING TO HELP THEM. Frankly, who cares WHY? They are NOT HUMAN. They are soul-less predators. They are sicker than we can even allow ourselves to imagine! He was profiling you, grooming you, sizing you up and hypnotizing you. WHO CARES WHY? Run away and stay away. Stay Out of Their Head Get back inside your own where you belong. It's a mindfulness thing. Watch how hard that is because they've trained you well. Don't try to figure out what they're up to, what's in their mind, or second guess them. Getting into their head means trying to figure out their motives, trying to make excuses for them, trying to rationalise their behaviour, trying to manipulate them, and especially getting sucked into the CONTENT. When you catch yourself, wrench yourself away from it and think about something else... This is a challenge because it takes a huge force of will to do this and goes against all the training they gave you to ensure that they take up all the space inside your head. http://narcissism-support.blogspot.com/2009/01/ten-steps-to-freedom-from-narcissists.html If you haven't read WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS - get the downloadable version and read it ASAP! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Feb 28 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
peacewarrior
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Don't try to figure out what

Don't try to figure out what they're up to, what's in their mind, or second guess them. Getting into their head means trying to figure out their motives, trying to make excuses for them, trying to rationalise their behaviour, trying to manipulate them, and especially getting sucked into the CONTENT. Aren't the above efforts red flags to keep a distance from any person who is unclear, indirect, chaotic and confusing? People who have nothing to hide do not comunicate like pathalogicals do. I have found that making exucuses and rationalizing go hand in hand. It is not so much people intend to give a free pass but respond to the pathalogical chaos/content to make some rational sense out of it and assume the thinking process applying sane reasons a person might have said or done what the P did. With sane non predators, non pathalogical persons one does not have the burden of trying to figure or puzzle out what is going on, what was the interaction about i.e. keep guessing. It's exhausting and draining to be in that position. I have chosen the wisdom that if a situation is very chaotic, things do not add up THEN there is a liar in the midst, people told highly conflicting pathalogic stories about the same thing. That is when it is vital to have peopel tell the facts, share what they were told.
Nov 15 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
Lydia
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Amazed- Stay Out of their Head

Thank you. I needed to hear this. This is why I joined this forum I analyze and try and figure out how someone so engaging can have no emathy or can be a shell of a person? But the character traits listed in this thread are frightening- and almost all are true of 'my N'. guess that is an ok name to call him on this forum? I am going to keep reading. Thank you for sharing. It helps.
Nov 15 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
Amazed
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You are right Barbara It Takes Massive Strength

It takes strenth inside, to have to wrench ourselves from the pathological turmoil away because of all the "training they have given us" to stay in their heads and their lives. Thier games, their puzzles, their enigma's, statements, all like you say, the content that convolutes, confuses. You are right, he was profiling, sizing me up, grooming me. It is to have been trained to stay all about him. Oh that is so true,,I will get the book asap, thank you for the link. Gettin' back in my head where I belong, going against the Narc training to live only for him!
Nov 15 - 2PM
Carolyn
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This sounds like the men in

This sounds like the men in the news who did these huge corporate swindles and ponzi schemes. Bernie Madoff ruined charities, life long friends, and scores of others. He had a long term relationship with his wife that was successful and employed his children in the business where he was swindling his investors. all of them have lost everything and he always seemed to be smiling for the news cameras as if none of it meant anything to him.
Nov 15 - 9AM
4joys4
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I found this true. That you

I found this true. That you dont see the scope of who they are until they are gone. I was shocked to learn who I was living with. All of these things are true. The exN is a sociopath. I still want justice.