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#1 Nov 20 - 6PM
gaizon
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confession time.....

Ok, so I get the no contact thing, and I'm good with the not calling, not emailing, etc...

We aren't FB friends, we don't text, if I see him in public I ignore him, the most I've ever said is a curt hello.

But, I've been cheating...I waffle between blocking him on FB and not....and when not, I snoop. But that all ended today. He blocked me. I should be grateful, this makes it easier. There's nothing to snoop (and even when there was, it was really not much, his profile is so restricted). Instead I just feel sad and pained.

I feel like I am toppling backwards a bit today....I thought I was doing pretty good, and maybe I was....but I was still getting something from my snooping...and it stings to be burned again.

But I've only myself to blame.

Thanks for this board to sound this out on.....

L.

Nov 21 - 9AM
Sparrow
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He did you a HUGE favor. It

He did you a HUGE favor. It hurts now, but will eventually subside. Stay strong!
Nov 21 - 7AM
Used
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gaizon

I am sorry for your pain, but please take something good out of this, you cannot now go on his page, so will no longer torment your self, and i agree with the people who said, you must have been on his mind for him to do it....I know its painful .but its also done, if you look for him again and ever find him...BLOCK HIM IMMEDIATLY...AND NEVER LOOK BACK....when I blocked exn and his family, if felt like such a load of my shoulders, I havent ever regretted it...HE HAS!!!!!!!!. THIS WILL PASS AND YOU WILL SEE ITS FOR THE BEST....
Nov 20 - 7PM
Syren66 (not verified)
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K, I hate to say this...but

K, I hate to say this...but he blocked you because he either can't see your posts to mutual friends (when he's blocked) or he can (when he's unblocked). He knew you unblocked him, probably b/c he saw a post of yours on a mutual friend's wall and decided to "beat you to the ignore"...they're so fucking juvenile! Congrats on staying almost 100% NC...I blocked the xN before I even moved out of the house. I've booted all mutual friends who are not above board and unjoined the shared group. It didn't bother me to get rid of him and I have no interest in anything he does...at all. He's blocked from texting or calling on my cell...he's completely cut off from initiating any contact with me...I like it that way. The last text he sent went ignored and he was subsequently blocked...I remember he said a long time ago that he could not STAND being ignored. So, it's win/win for me...I get peace & quiet...along with the knowledge that my silence is pissing him off. The silence has been deafening...in a good way! :D
Nov 21 - 2AM (Reply to #8)
faith_
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I have a question. How do

I have a question. How do you block on fb? I know of "unfriend" and "unsubsribe"...but how and what does it mean to "block"? Thanks. And when you "unsubscibe" does the person know? I've heard that with unfriending they don't know unless they actually go looking for you and can't find you in their friends list anymore.
Nov 21 - 7AM (Reply to #12)
Syren66 (not verified)
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Facebook has revamped. Go to

Facebook has revamped. Go to the person's page...scroll down the left hand side and underneath their friends, there's "report as spam/block" option. Click on that...and then you have more options on the pop-up screen. If you block them, they are automatically unfriended. To unsubscribe, you can click on any post of theirs on your page and in the right hand upper corner outside of the text, there will be an arrow pointing down if you hover...click on it...there are options to unsubscribe there...you can also unsubscribe on their page in the upper right hand corner. and no, they don't know if you unsubscribe.
Nov 21 - 2AM (Reply to #9)
Emma
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If you go on to someone's

If you go on to someone's main page, scroll down to where it says unfriend etc...there is also report/block.
Nov 21 - 3AM (Reply to #10)
faith_
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What is blocking exactly? Is

What is blocking exactly? Is it like unfriending, just temporarily? Thanks, Emma.
Nov 21 - 3AM (Reply to #11)
Emma
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Your welcome

If you block someone, it's until you feel ready to take them off block. Just temporary or forever! If someone's blocked you, if you know their e-mail address you can still block them.
Nov 20 - 7PM
Hunter
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Contact = pain!! It will

Contact = pain!! It will pass!! Hunter
Nov 20 - 7PM
freaked
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Gaizon, healing begins all of a sudden

finally, Nh blocked me on FB. But instead of feeling shocked and sad...I was GLAD. Phew.. END of a horrible chapter of life...good riddance. Now I deleted that FB account of mine...and created a brand new one where i don't need to suffer insult and injury. Life becomes beter and better the more they shut us out...it's like...they take a decision to hurt us...but strangely...it begins our healing journey. 8 days now since that happened. I believe we do finally 'get over' the narc. nothing bad lasts forever.
Nov 20 - 6PM
ReclaimingPower
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You're not alone. Take

You're not alone. Take comfort in knowing that at least HE doesn't know you were looking and it does give you a chance to heal as well. I was doing that for a while and finally I blocked his profile for my own sanity. I made up an excuse that if I could see his profile, he could see mine, and I didn't want him to have access to see anything about me. And I agree with "nomoredenial" -- he had to consciously find your profile and block you -- which means you are on his mind and he's annoyed. Take heart in that and move forward from there. (((hugs)))
Nov 20 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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RP

That is 100% correct!! Her silence pissed him off so this was his back lash!! Hunter
Nov 20 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
Anari
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Interesting

Interesting
Nov 20 - 6PM
nomoredenial
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Yes be glad

I imagine it feels like he wins again but really you win. It will help you be over him....and I hesitate to say this for fear of stirring something up...but he was thinking about you when he blocked you....ha so as much as he like to pretend you don't exist obviously you do. He did you a favor