Conflicted
Conflicted
I posted a couple of days ago that an ex-colleague and friend passed away suddenly last week, and exN took the opportunity to hoover me. I did not respond, but now that the service is planned for Wednesday, I am stressing about the situation.
I sincerely want to pay my respects to my friend and her family, but there is a good chance the exN and one of the OW (the one he was "in love with") will be there. We all worked together, so there will be many other ex-colleagues there as well.
I am feeling conflicted because I would like to attend, and there is expectation from other ex-colleagues I'll attend (but that's irrelevant, I know); but I am weary of putting myself in a situation where I might see exN. Honestly, if the OW was there and he wasn't, I would not care. I have nothing against her. He is the one I want to avoid, but the service is about my friend, so I don't want to allow him to impact my decision. Life is really funny sometimes.
I think I have mostly made up my mind to go, but I need to prepare myself. My friend who knows about him (but doesn't quite get the whole NPD thing) was understanding, but agreed that this is not about me or him; and if I get uncomfortable at the service, I can just leave, but I still should attend out of respect for my friend.
How have you dealt with a situation like this? I have not had contact in almost 5 months, and this is the last scenario in which I thought I might break NC.
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Now I am confused
Well taken
Clarification about the situation
That's a good idea to run it
Lots to consider
I laughed at your last
Still deciding...
don't go
I wouldn't hold it against a
well.... recent "sighting"....
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