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"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

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#1 Aug 30 - 11AM
Goldie
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"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

I saw this quote by Jodie on the post: Are they sexually warped?

I think it kind of says it all. I cried to get him back and within days of his coming back I would be crying because he was there. It was always the same story, every time I let him back.

As to are they sexually warped? YES.

Sex which lacks intimacy is NOT LOVE.

God bless,
Goldie

Sep 1 - 8AM
Happy1
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Goldie

Goldie So true! I had great sex with my narc but it was sex and no intimacy or live there whatsoever. I would also do whatever I could in the past to get my narc back and then once I had him I was completely miserable and crying all the time because I knew it was wrong. I considered Michael my crack since I've never done drugs. He was my drug and I kept wanting more and more. I Disnt care as long as I was wig him.
Sep 1 - 2AM
lillymarch
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Love it, thank you

This is me and my CD to a tee. Can't live with him, can't live without him. My most painful time was when I realized that I couldn't go back. I wanted to, and I wanted him. But when I realized who and what I thought he was, was all made up by me...that was pain. How could anyone treat me like he did. Only someone whomhas no capability for empathy. Only a Narc.
Sep 1 - 2AM (Reply to #8)
Arwen
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Lilly you are speaking my

Lilly you are speaking my exact thoughts and experiences..."my most painful time was when I realized I couldn't go back"...it all leads to the same road of madness, disgusting sophomoric, bachelor, cheap, abusive, drunk behavior. And to think I never even got a dinner out of all of that LOL!
Aug 31 - 5PM
greengirl91
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Suffer NOW, or suffer LATER,

Suffer NOW, or suffer LATER, with bonuses?..that`s it. In the end, the conclusion is all the same, the difference is that we can save ourselfs of years of pain.
Aug 30 - 7PM
Susan32
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I cried because I lost him...

But I would've cried MORE if I had him, gave in, had sex with him, had his kids&married him(!!!) One of my friends wisely said during the final D&D "You're crying so much because he rejected you. You'd be crying MORE if he accepted you." There would've been MORE tears (and probably few guests, since my family&friends despised him) if I had been the blushing bride. Leo Tolstoy once said of one of Sofia Behrs's sisters "She would be beautifully unhappy if she married me." Sofia ended up being the "beautifully unhappy" one. Sometimes it's better to love&lose than not love at all... and sometimes it's better to love&lose than love&KEEP! The ex-Psych prof wasn't a keeper.
Aug 31 - 11PM (Reply to #5)
Goldie
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I love that quote, Susan you are awesome!!!

"Sometime it is better to have loved and lost than to ever have loved at all." I adore that quote. So true. The love is in us; screw them. We are the point; not them. God bless, Goldie
Aug 30 - 6PM
ordinarycourage
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So true

I have already cried because I lost him and glad it's mostly over with. He wasn't worth even one of my tears.
Aug 30 - 1PM
dabussard
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True Very True

"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him." Oh so very true... This could not have been better said... I also needed the wake up call that sex with a N does lack intimacy and is not love. Thank you for posting this... I am missing the sex right now!!! Sex was my N's way to control me... It was my addiction to him... I still hate these damn Jacknuts!!! Grrrr...
Aug 30 - 12PM
Miss_Jade
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i was only stupid enough to

i was only stupid enough to take him back once, and i regretted it five minutes after it happened. Lol! i just dont comprehend how these people can do this to us, it took me another year and a half to get rid of him after the first time we broke up. in a way, im glad he left me because the guilt trips he played on me when i tried to leave him were horrible. If he hadnt left, i might still be trapped in that hell hole with him. oh lord its good to be free!