Dealing With My Anger
Dealing With My Anger
Xnh dumped me almost 6 months ago after literally years of verbal assaults about how I'm "holding him back" from moving near his mommy, because how my health problems were stopping xnh from having the constant "fun" he feels entitled to, because I wouldn't let his druggie P daughter back into the house to destroy any small amount of peace that his other daughter and I could find, and I found out after he left that he'd had an OW for several months before he D&D'd.
As many of you know, I'm stuck working with xnh at the same company in the office right next door to his, and I've filed a harassment complaint with my supervisors because he insisted on following me into work daily, following me into my office to say "hi" (aka, try baiting me into a fight), and making unwanted contact with me on a regular basis. After he was warned by management to have absolutely no contact with me on work property or using company resources, he left me mostly alone at work for a brief period.
Xnh then resorted to showing up at my house during this period using the excuse of telling me his hideous P daughter had managed to get pregnant by a gang member (what he was really doing was making a hoover attempt to see if he could suck me back - it failed). He called me one time after I'd been in the hospital for two days with food poisoning using the excuse of saying he hoped I was feeling better. It was another hoover attempt, and what he really wanted was to whine and cry about how he and his horrible P daughter had been the emergency room at the same hospital at the same time because the gang boyfriend had beat her up. Personally I don't give a flying crap WHAT happens to her, and xnh knows this. I promptly changed my phone to have call rejection and entered all of his numbers so that he can no longer call after this incident. His "news flashes" are completely unwanted on my part.
During the brief period after he was told to leave me alone at work, he also had blasted me as I was going into my house for changing the locks on my property. He was angry because the keys that he'd refused to return to me after the divorce no longer worked, and he can no longer just walk into my home as he pleases. None of his hoover attempts or verbal assaults have gotten reactions from me...but he's just like the "thing that won't go away" anyhow.
Xnh's latest form of harassment apparently is now back at work again. I am logging his activities and my supervisors have again been informed. He paces back in front of my office multiple times per day all puffed up with himself like some twisted rooster, and he now stands in front my office door with others talking about his personal dirty laundry (specifically his hideous P daughter). I'm positive he's doing this to be offensive to me and very "in my face". Monday, he walked past my office door, and when he noticed that my office mate wasn't at his desk, xnh called me a "b*tch" just loud enough for to hear (and no one else). I reported to it to my supervisor.
He is getting no reactions from me about any of this. I don't talk to him. I don't look at him. I don't react at all except to get up and shut my door when he stands in front of it, or put on my headphones when I hear his voice (these were both advised by my supervisor). As far as xnh knows, I'm acting like he doesn't exist. He's NOTHING.
However even though I'm not reacting, his inability to leave me alone makes me very angry. I'm sure I'm in the anger stage of this whole recovery process. I'm not sad about him. I'm don't miss him. I don't want him in my life for one second longer. I hate him. I hate what he's done to me. I hate the way that he's assaulted me with how I was "holding him back" for years about moving to be near his mommy. I also, hate that after hearing his crap for so long, HE dumped me, we've been divorced for almost 6 months, I'M NOT HOLDING HIM BACK, and he STILL won't go away. He sticks around me like stink on poop harassing me.
I guess my question to you guys is, "What can I do to NOT let him get under my skin with his infantile, harassing behavior?" He's not seeing any reactions from me, but it is STILL making me very angry. I don't want to let him have that power over me...ever again. Any suggestions?
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Thanks Briseis. You are
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
That's such a poignant
That's really poetic!!!
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Thank guys for your
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
what hell!
Mystwoman