disrespecting victims

It really is in bad taste.....but as disgusting as his opinions and attitudes are, I did smile slightly at his suggestion that us 'victims' do tend to get very passionate about our victim identities and seem to spend enormous amounts of time and energy thinking about and talking about our 'ex' abusers. I think I was more smiling at myself really though, because in some ways its true. Maybe I just have a weird sense of humor, but I would rather be happy about my own victim status which I label myself with and own and control and define and give up when I am ready, than have someone else force me into victimhood, but then deny the reality they have inflicted on me without my consent. Of course samuraimohel doesn't have a clue and is ignorant, a jerk, an idiot and trying to be witty... or whatever, but he made me smile because I realized just how much I DO get it now and how much I've grown because I'm starting to be ok with what I know, even though the majority of other people don't know the same. About an hour ago on TV I heard the serenity prayer, and for the first time I really listened to it and understood it, it gave me a sense of peace..... Serenity - I am starting to accept what I can't change (other people, especially the pathologicals of this world, that blogger perhaps, so I'm not going to waste my time or energy giving him any attention on his blog). Courage - I am getting stronger everyday, learning how to take responsibility for my own life, destiny and happiness by changing the things I can change (me). Wisdom - to know the difference between what is my stuff and what is someone else's stuff. Finally I'm learning how to design, build and maintain my very own personal boundaries, I'm still a rookie boundary builder and at times I'm still not quite sure where those bricks should go, but I'm loving my new boundaries and that silly blogger is definitely on the outside of mine...so I didn't take it personally, its not my fault he is clueless and probably will be his whole life. The irony of his comments is that it was intended as an attack on people like me, but instead, he unwittingly validated my experiences and gave me the opportunity to smile at myself and my healing process because I really am ok with myself, even if he isn't. I am sorry that some have felt offended by his blog and I do understand how hurtful it could be.

As I said, I have had dealing with her production company ONE ON ONE over the years for some advocacy projects I am and have been involved with. This involved visits and numerous phone calls. So that turned me off to them. Second, after watching her show religiously I became DISGUSTED at she and the way the psych-whores she puts on the show BLAMES the victims who come forward to tell their stories for being DUPED BY PSYCHOPATHS. This has happened MORE Than 2 or 3 times that I have seen. That's outrageous. Third, the woman is clearly in love with herself. I have problems with her involvement with the last presidential campaign. I find her empty and yet another one who uses her following to sell books, products and so on that may or may not have any intrinsic value. By USING MY OWN BRAIN & COMMON SENSE I have come to believe without question that Oprah is narcissistic at best... Man, I miss Montel. Now there was a stand up guy. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily Online Coaching for Victims of Narcissists/ Psychopaths

The more information about personality disorders that gets into the mainstream the more likely a blog like this will counter. What happens if narcissists can't find victims? there is now more and more information and the mention of Oprah is clear-Oprah speaks to millions of women-I think we should all send an e-mail to HARPO Productions and ask that Lisa and her book be on an Oprah show. that will give some real fear to those who like to victimize women. I did send an e-mail a few weeks ago.

What a idiot. Speechless myself. http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/