Don't be fooled, the NARC'S are setting up their "Winter Nests."

"Deck the halls with boughs of holly Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la 'Tis the season when Narcs are coming Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la Pay Attention to the Hooverings Fa-la-la, la-la-la, la-la-la. Ditch their arses to their Mommas Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la!" Thought this would be funny to share, and on the spot about Goldie`s post!! This is the Winter Season almost dear frieds, pay attention and STAY STRONG (including myself :], because the hooverings are starting!! And the Switches from one woman, to another. Stay strong, and ditch their a*ses, where they belong! Out of YOUR life.

Met mine in November... 1st Christmas as daters simple,wonderful...just what it should have been. His 1st birthday together...nice,awesome,just what it should have been. My 1st birthday together...he outdid himself...must have burnt him out because that was it... From that point on (married now) every holiday was ruined...a fight was some how started and I was told to *get the F out*, and spent every holiday alone...except of course his birthday...some how I was always wooed back in for that event....kicked out soon after so 4th July was destroyed, the whole summer destroyed, the coming holidays destroyed...oh in between I was hoovered and lulled back in and like a fool in love I went because my marriage meant something to me... Hind sight...he claimed he never cheated on me...I don't believe him....proof or not, I don't care...he is a worthless piece of shit and a pathological liar...he lied so smoothly that, yes, I would call him a sociopath and not bat an eye, except of course for the embarrassment of being taken for a ride and getting in the car willingly. Dumped for every holiday and summers? Then being told all he did was sit around and cry over me...hahahahaha....then of course over hearing conversations about what he really was doing.... I do not wish him ill, I believe in karma...but I do pity his next victim...

is tough to take, heart breaking, but these are the things we have to be able to face to get real - this one really really hurts me - we spent alot of intimate time together over 10 years and knowing it was just convenience is a killer... Thank you again Goldie for helping me be strong enough to look at this thing head on.

This is completely true of narcs! I always wondered why when the warmer weather and sun came out my exN would devalue my company and need to take a 'break' from our relationship, then, when the cold and dark came he'd want to be all close again. The final D&D happened in our third spring/summer, after he found new supply for the next upcoming fall/winter. He discarded her the spring after when he moved on (with another overlap of course), to the next new supply source. Since then I've lost track and really don't want to know anymore, but I did notice this was a pattern of his long before I discovered he is a narc. That in turn validated so much and really helped me to let go of believing in the 'closeness' I thought we had during those cold, dark, winter nights together. Journey on...

I was always away over the holidays so I missed TG and Christmas all the years we were going together but I know he was glad. He only wanted to be with his family on holidays - not me. And he did not include me in family dinners ever. He only spent Valentines Day and my birthday with me - he even did not want to spend New years eve with me - he was with his famous buddies and would just call me or text me and I took this shit - I accepted all his crazy rejecting stuff after a few years when I was trained - he really hurt me bad