Don't get the sudden coolling off
Don't get the sudden coolling off
I'm trying to understand a situation and somehow need to figure it out. Can I get some feedback on this, because it's puzzling me and making me doubt myself (probably a carry-over of a terrible past relationship with a narc.)
A married man at work has making long eye contact and in general noticing me. He sits near me when he's in the office (part-time). He doesn't initiate conversation but looks at me every time I pass by and kind of stares.
We met by chance on public transit one day, and he sat across from me but didn't seem to see me. I said "hi." We chatted about work and other things. He kept asking me questions. At the end, he said he enjoyed talking to me and seemed aware of me at work later that day.
But then all of a sudden, the last few times he should be there (because scheduled to work), he either hasn't come in or has been in briefly and left.
I am spoken for at the moment and am not looking to create problems for myself with a married man. I mentioned my significant other to him in that conversation on transit.
Even though I don't want this to go anywhere (and, yes, probably enjoyed the attention from him), I do not understand this change in behaviour. Did I seem unavailable to him and he therefore gave up? Was he flirting just for fun?
What I just don't get is the fairly drastic move of suddenly staying away. It made me feel weird and, oddly enough, "rejected." I know that those are my own issues to deal with. But I can generally figure people out and this time don't understand.
Now, take this entire opening
You are making mountains out of molehills...
Baffled why some posters are
Rinalda
ruby01
Okay,
I had a married guy giving me
The way we feel
Married men in the workplace
Married men... or those in a relationship
The heart of the problem
So much has happened
it's also important to start
Able to see what he's doing
rinalda; i have been where
RINALDA
RINALDA
Rinalda
Well
The issue
Rinalda
Well
There are nut jobs all around